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Have you had times when you thought your whole family would be better of with the kids in school? I don't mean those times when you've had an average day, but when you just don't think you can do it anymore?
My ds with Aspergers is currently outside with dh in the dark (it's 7.30pm) trying to get him inside after a screaming meltdown. DS 3 has developmental issues (he can't talk, possible ASD) so he screams a lot too. And ds 10 takes a lot of energy to hs as he is VERY easily distracted and I have to push and push to get him to work. He's not at grade level or I probably would have sent him back to school already!
My house is a mess, which stresses me out, I have no time for dh or myself, and I feel like a dragon Mum who never has any fun because she is always dealing with hs, disability or guilt.
I have been trying to tell myself for some time now that this is a season and I just need to ride it out, that things will get better etc etc, but maybe a season of school would make me a better Mum and then dc would be happier. At least they would come home to a tidy house, a calm Mum and a lovingly prepared meal and treats instead of whatever I can throw together! But I do feel that they need to be home. Unfortunately I'm not a natural homeschooler, I don't LOVE to teach. I love homeschooling because I know in my heart it's the best for my kids faith and character, but...
I also sometimes also think that ds 10 might need to be around more typical kids.
I know I need to lean on the Lord more, but I feel like I have no time for Him either except for quick prayer amongst the daily stuff, and a few minutes to read the Mass readings and The Word Among Us. How do you find time for prayer?
Deborah (3aut1not) I would love to hear your wisdom. How do you do it practically speaking?
So how do you keep going when you want to run away?
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Tricia, did you take a Spring Break yet? Breaks are just as important for teachers/mothers as for the students. Take a week and pitch the kids outside, do a little cleaning each day and have the lovely snack and the nice meal too!
You'll come back refreshed after your week. 
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{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Tricia}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Hugs to you from another Aspie mum! We've been there so many times, too. I've often wondered whether Gracie would better in a small school. My sister's son (classic Autism) is in a wonderful special school which has helped him (and my sister) SO much! (The school wouldn't be appropriate for our high-functioning girl. )
We had in-home therapists for years and years who gave us (and Gracie) very concrete things to do, behavior modifications, tricks, tips, retraining, etc. Is there anything like that available to you? I'm considering restarting some therapy for Gracie, although she's doing better now than ever before.
I have no advice, but I sympathize in spades!!!!!!
Hugs and prayers to you...
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I had a long post but deleted most of it. I just wanted to say that I have been there many times. So far we are still homeschooling. I have many behavior challenges here at home with my oldest and it pushes me to the limit some days.
Hugs and you are not alone.
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Prayers to you from another mom of an Aspie ds9.
Yes, the problem is HFA / Aspie are usually not quite severe enough to attend a school like was mentioned, but just a little too...different...to do very well in a regular school.  It's so hard.
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Thanks ladies 
I guess I gave the impression that it's the Aspie that is the cause of my frustration. In terms of homeschooling he is the easiest because he picks things up quickly, works quickly and thrives at home. It's hearing about penguins last thing at night and first thing in the morning, and ALL day that drives me to distraction!  He doesn't need a lot of extra help. Anger is an issues, but we are looking into how to help him with it.
I guess I have a lot of guilt that I'm not doing enough with ds 3 who can't talk etc that worries me. If the others were in school...
My issue is more about juggling everyones needs. I'm sick of goimng to sleep and thinking I shouldn't have lost it there, I should have done this etc etc. The good days seem to be few and far between.
I don't think having another break will help. We had 2 weeks holidays only 2 weeks ago. Here is Australia we are only 2 terms into our year, which starts in Jan.
I have a vision in my head of how I want it to be, but I don't seem to be able to achieve it.
Thanks for your prayer and support.
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HI Tricia
Maybe you need a break. Have you thought of putting your NT son into school an persisting with the oldest As boy. As form what I have read and seen homeschooling seems to suit a lot of kids on the spectrum especially the more able ones as they escape the bullying and other rubbish that can go with school. I know some parents who use the state curriculum an get the resources form the local state education department including computers would that help you?
I have myself also read the Mother s Rule of Life and found ti helpful to my own situation.
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Thanks Karnak,
I am still considering putting Thomas (10 NT) back in school for a while. But he was the reason we started homeschooling because he wasn't coping at school as he is so easily distracted. Hense, he is also difficult to homeschool. Very frustrating! I worry that if he returned to school he would label himself as slow. But he does want to go to school.
We are using a bit of this and that with our Aspie, and he's loving it. As I said he's very easy to school. It's the anger that can be a problem.
I love Mother's Rule of Life! I'm planning to read it again soon. Unfortunately I'm not very good at keeping to a schedule! Is anyone?! (please say no )
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