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At_His_Feet
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Posted: May 29 2010 at 6:47am \| IP Logged

I'm wondering if anyone here unschools their aspie? I've always been drawn to the idea of unschooling, but have never had the courage to let go and begin.

Today I was reassessing where we are going with ds10 and I know that he will do whatever I ask of him, but for the most part I know he won't be getting any enjoyment from it.

So I've come here to ask if have walked this road and if you think a more unschooling lifestyle is a good fit for kids with aspergers. I guess I just worry that if I allow him to be almost totally child led he'll never show an interest in the things I *think* he should be exposed to.

Any thoughts?

Thanks,
Tricia.

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Donna Marie
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Posted: May 29 2010 at 11:37am \| IP Logged

Yes and no. My aspie loves rules and knowing exactly what is expected he is to do next. When I change things up too quickly, he doesn't care for it. He is more methodical in his approach. We have a 'weekly meeting' and we adjust the flow or add things as he thinks we should...adding another book if one wasn't as thorough..ect. He likes checking off a to-do list. The spine and general schedule stays the same and the other things are more flexible around it...if that makes sense..my ds is 14.

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Posted: May 29 2010 at 9:09pm \| IP Logged

My younger ds, 9, isn't aspie, but he is PDD, ADHD, and bipolar. We tried the uschooling thing last year, and what I found was that he flitted from thing to thing and was in general unsatisfied and bored, listless. He really does so much better with structure, but I have to be careful and not be TOO structured, (my failing). Structure with flexibility. I think the weekly meeting of the minds is a great idea, a road map of things to explore during the coming week, and some compromises, what you want and what he wants. I really think unschooling is great for the average kid, but special needs kids are going to need more guidance. Just my 2 cents.

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