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Hello Ladies,
What are your paramaters for online groups that your kids are allowed--or not allowed--to be a part of?
We're getting into some issues with online "freinds" and message boards withour oldest three--ages 16, 14, and 12.
Thank you for any help advice, and of course, prayers!!
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We have pretty strict computer time for our 15 year old son and he is typically monitored the entire time. Are you referring to people they know in real life or virtually strangers they know strictly thru the internet?
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I am referring to both, although the virtual stangers met online are the cause for concern.
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Either I know the girls/parents if it's a private group that they're doing group chats.. or it's on facebook or something where it's "public" so that I can keep an eye on it. And as they get older I purposely let go of control.
but my kids don't really chat with people they don't know. some they haven't met but I've known their parents for years but they're not strangers.
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You might want to let your children know that they will need to keep track of any online friendship/ongoing interaction they have with someone from another country, in case they want to apply for a government or other type of job that requires a background investigation or security clearance. The lookback period is 7 years. It's probably way easier to limit those contacts up front rather than try to figure out where everyone lives, works, etc., and what their real names are.
(And, yes, this is the voice of experience speaking!)
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My children take a couple of on line classes through Mother of Divine Grace (but I know there are other programs that provide the same). She has several on line friends through these classes. Because it is a controlled group and not just open to the public, I allow her to communicate with these kids that are her age or close to it. It has actually been a blessing since, previous to these classes, she was struggling with loneliness. Through these classes, she has made a couple of very close friends, both of whom have come to visit (one all the way from California!).
That being said ... I would not allow my children to "make friends" with unknown people outside of a controlled group. She was friended by someone (a friend of a friend of a friend ...) on Facebook at one time and that turned out to be a problem. Since then we have been more strict regarding these types of communication.
For one, we keep all on line communications in the open around here so it is monitored. Our only PC is in the kitchen and when the older kids use their Kindles they know their dad and I have free access to check who they are communicating with. It's not perfect. Our daughter has been in trouble a few times because of talking on the phone too late at night but as I said, her on line friends have been a blessing and much prayed for cure for her loneliness. I know though, if it becomes a problem to where we can no longer trust her we would have to make changes to our current set up.
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We haven't been big at all on social media for the children (other than most having blogs which are rarely written on) not too sure how we've been able to escape it all, just luck I think. One of our older children was involved for a short time but a few issues arose and since then we've put a blanket ban on all social media; gmail chat and fb is something they can 'take up when they leave home. And since our ban there have been plenty more avenues opened up I know but truth is I don't have the energy to police it all. Oh and they don't have phones either so don't have to worry there either.
Having said that I'm lucky our children have plenty of siblings for friendships, they are mostly boys and aren't interested in communicating anyway.
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Erin wrote:
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 This sounds like my oldest son. He is 21. All of his cousins ask him why he's not on Facebook. His response is usually something like, "why would I want to get involved in all the drama?"
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