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With Father's Day coming up on June 16 of this year, I thought that this Thursday's bump-a-favorite-old-thread could focus on some oldie-but-goodie threads here that share ways to encourage and support our husbands!!
We live in a culture and time in which we see families, and especially husbands/dads, attacked like never before. As wives/moms we can find ourselves so busy with the practical day-to-day jobs (our daily duties) that we forget to support and encourage this EXTREMELY important man in our lives.  It's easy to get wrapped up in the details of the ordinary!
I'd love it if you'd share some ways you may support and encourage your husband? Share the simple things!
In this sharing with each other, we should use care when speaking of our husbands as a way of guarding the Sacramental relationship: keeping confidential that which might reflect poorly on our husband as well as guarding details and concerns that should remained sheltered between husband and wife.
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Do you have a favorite older thread here that really helped you in encouraging or showing support to your husband?
Maybe you remember a thread which gave you some practical ideas for challenges you faced with your husband?
Or a thread which gave you ideas for how to help dad live out his fatherhood amidst the fullness and challenges of our culture?
Go bump it today! 
God bless all our husbands/dads!
St. Joseph, pray for them!
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Mackfam
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I thought maybe it would be nice to keep a compilation of favorite dad threads here! So, in case someone wanted to *favorite* this thread they'd have several threads all indexed here!!
A couple of my favorites that I bumped:
Time with Dad
A Father's Pocket Guide to Homeschooling
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BUMP!
I (as well as others, it would seem) completely forgot about "Bump a Favorite Thread Thursday" yesterday!
So, I thought today I'd push up this thread and make it "Bump Another Favorite Thread About Fathers Friday."
Father's Day is coming up!
Here is one of my favorite Husband/Father Threads, Husband as Best Friend.
Jen also asks above, "I'd love it if you'd share some ways you may support and encourage your husband? Share the simple things! "
I try to bring him coffee, water, snacks, or even meals when he is working on home projects so that he doesn't have to stop. I *try* to do this even if he isn't doing my preferred project  or when I'm a little envious that *I* have to stop and start *my* projects constantly if any of us is going to eat!
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For more inspiration, another terrific, older thread is Thoughtfulness in Marriage. 
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I recently read a reflection by another mom.
She said that for years she would grumble about her husband and wish he would help her more. The one day, as she was reading her bible, she read about Adam and Eve.
She was struck that God created Eve as a helpmate for Adam. It was Eve's given task to support and help her husband, not the other way around.
She said that really changed her view of life at home. It was *her* job to be the helper, not her husband's, and any help he did give she was able to be very thankful for.
I have been pondering that one... it really does change the way I am seeing things!
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I can't get my head around that one Melinda. If I am my husband's helper.. then I don't have a job that he helps with. Sorta like the Queen of Hearts in Alice in Wonderland.. All the jobs are HIS jobs and I just help. So even when he does something I normally do.. he's not helping me.. he's just doing the job that I help with.
Not to say that I don't appreciate the things he does. I can still appreciate that he sees that I can't manage (at that moment for whatever reason) to do the jobs that normally are delegated to me or the kids.. but his doing that still does not make him my helper
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Hmm...
I understood it to mean that I definitely do have my own work- work that helps support my husband in raising and providing for my family.
In that sense, I am his helper. God has given me my own work at home to help my husband. Is it fair for me to be grumpy if he is not helping me around the house? Should I expect him to do some/most all of what is rightfully mine to do?
Conversely, does my husband ever expect me to show up at his office and help do his work? Is he ever grumpy because he's tired and doesn't feel good and thinks I should be helping him design the next fluid density column (or whatever  )?
I think that because I don't often see the work my husband is doing to support my family I can fall into the trap of
a. thinking he has life much easier at times and
b. thinking I have a right to be angry if he isn't helping around the house as much as he should.
Neither a nor b is good- for me, anyway.
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Another bump - A Father's Influence
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