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Cherishedheart
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I am wondering if anyone would like to share how their husbands share the load or not in home schooling.
Is the role he plays...
Headmaster, hands off just supervises all is well
FInancial provider only
Helping with curriculum choices. Looks through with you and you work out the choices together
Does he help with any subject matter
Help with designing curriculum and writing out plans
Any other way he helps with the education of the children
I hope some of you are interested in sharing your experiences 
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Well, my dh is involved in Math curriculum choices and implementation. He does the grading and goes over errors with the kids when needed. He teaches science some years. This year is his year to teach science - Physics. The other science he teaches is Astronomy. He also teaches the older kids Religion.
I bounce almost everything off of him to get his perspective.
The best thing he's done lately is to write web-based planning software. Woo-hoo!! Very happy about that. It's in a grid format, which is what I need visually. Made planning school so much easier.
I have been blessed with a dh who is probably more enthusiastic about hsing than I am.
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My husband is supportive of home ed - maybe too supportive! He was very upset and disappointed when I was suggesting DS might do better emotionally in a school.
He doesn't so much provide financially - I use the money the government pays to all mothers in the UK to pay for things, and spend very little. He doesn't do any teaching, we need to ask a lot before he will do field trips or hands-on tool/woodworking stuff with DS and more or less leaves all decisions to me. I would prefer him to be more involved but we manage fine.
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I have a totally supportive husband when it comes to homeschooling.....He trusts more in what I am doing than I do sometimes...
He doesn't help in curriculum planning or with day to day teaching.....but he is there if I have any discipline problems...  ( a very good thing to have)
He is our only wage earner so he "supports" our homeschool....and is a willing participant on any field trip or fun activity. In fact, if he has a day off of work during the week he has been known to call a "superintendent conference day" and take us all on a fun outing....   If he is off of work and it is a school day---he just tends to "disrupt" things.... a lot.... He really appreciates the "fun" we can just have as a family no matter what day it is.
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Like Joann, my dh financially supports our homeschool. He loves Science and will always go through experiments, etc. with the kids, get into nature with them, etc. He leaves the day-to-day and the curriculum choices to me. I do try to go over everything with him, but his eyes tend to glaze over.
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Hi Gae 
My dh is very supportive of homeschooling, helps in many ways but he would love to help more directly than work commitments allow.
He helps on a practical level with maths when time allows, often he is to be seen at the whiteboard with the children of a night discussing their problems challenging them to think of other ways to solve maths equations. He watches science shows with the children and encourages discussion. He would love to do more formal science but time doesn't allow. At present he is facilitating our logic lessons at the tea table.
Of course he teaches many other extra curricula that life provides such as house building and life on a rural property.
Often I call on him to be the 'marker,' to declare work standard has been reached as my weakness is I can be too soft. And with teenage boys it is great to have Dad involved in this way, they may try and cajole with me but know Dad's expectations are higher and they can come up to the mark. This is of paramount importance the older they get, and they are free to ring or email him at work through the day and he answers when he can.
He is our financial provider too but is so much more.
For me he is a wonderful support listening to my plans and giving input into what areas we perhaps need to concentrate more on. To be honest he is much happier since I have started my learning blog as I compile a lot of my plans first and then he looks over them, he prefers to read the shorter version than to listen to my longer rambles. He also likes to read my week summation of what we have done and will give me feedback or more often than not 'encourage' a child to work harder.
On a very practical note he has designed excel spreadsheets and pivot tables for me (and taught me a little ) to help with organising, planning, recording and the smooth implementation of our daily work.
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My husband is home while I teach the children and he'll
-wrangle little people when they kick up a fuss
-supervise children doing seat work while I read to others
-provide further explanations in the maths and sciences
-and most importantly make dinner!
We actually receive rebursements from our school board for homeschooling expense so my husband's financial support is more indirect.
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My husband is the financial provider and didn't blink an eye when I asked if we could set aside a generous amount of money every month for school purchases and will even give me a portion of the tax refund if he knows I could use it.
He is completely supportive of home schooling, he balks at the idea of sending our kids to PS the few times I have brought it up (when I feel overwhelmed and under-confident). He definitely helps me feel better about what I am accomplishing at those times.
He will sit down and do math assignments with our oldest if I am feeling too overwhelmed or too busy to get to it, and if he is around he'll occupy the littles so I can work with one or two of our older children.
When we were engaged and the topic of schooling our future children came up neither of us wanted to homeschool. When we dicussed our options and it became fairly obvious that if we wanted an authentically Catholic education for our children in Canada we were going to have to do it ourselves, I began to pray that God would change our hearts if it was His will that we homeschooled any future children.
Now I can't imagine doing anything else (most of the time, anyway). :)
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My husband will be teaching Biology to our 9th grader this year! I think he's excited about it! (If he couldn't do it, I would have to find another alternative because I can not imagine teaching high school science myself.)
He is extrememly supportive of homeschooling and is the sole fiancial provider for our family. I make most homeschool decisions basically on my own, but I can always bounce ideas off of him when I need to. I am doing this more now with a high schooler.
Now that we have a high schooler, he will be taking my course descriptions and other documentation and making them look more "professional". He's much better on the computer than I am.
There must be more, but those are the things that come to mind immediately.
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My husband is the financial provider. He is totally supportive of homeschooling, but he lets me work it all out for myself. There's a reason he teaches college and not elementary school.
I usually make him aware of what we're doing formally each semester, but he pretty much trusts my judgment. He can tell that the kids are learning (even the ones who don't do schoolwork yet) just by watching their minds work.
But he facilitates their education in other ways with me. We both don't shy away from using "big" words when we talk to the kids or answering their complex questions (to the best of our abilities).
He's also their go-to-guy for sports education (he did a geography project two years ago in which baseball logos were taped to our U.S. map on the appropriate city). He also handles a lot of music appreciation (our four-year-old has a favorite Beatles song and McCartney solo song ).
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Hmmmm..."Dad" doesn't do the planning. He does provide lots of opinions and feedback. He was at first a little hesitatant of this homeschooling journey, mainly because he was unfamiliar. But to live in this area, with so much support, meeting other fathers whom he respects totally supportive and enthusiastic of homeschooling has solidified his positive approach.
That, and seeing the results. He is very pleased. Weak areas that he sees, he'll point out (manners, writing).
I show him some directions we're going, but he's not really interested in choices or philosophy unless he's trying to understand how I approach differently from traditional school. For example, the other night he was asking how I'm going to do spelling. At first he was dismayed to hear I wasn't going to drill like the old way. So we discussed how it's included, just not "spelled out".
He also plays a very active role in our field trips, nature study, and our sports. Then he also works together in choosing and doing read-alouds, movies and music. Everything is a learning experience.
Financially he supports, of course, and the big ticket items we discuss and plan our purchases.
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Dh has become much more directly involved over the past few years, as our final three (all boys) have hit the teen years. He adjusted his work schedule to include one weekday off to help with homeschooling (he switched from Wednesdays off to Mondays at the end of last year's studies and will continue that schedule for the upcoming study year....it really starts our week off on the right track). Dh works with our sons on Math, English and Science (three subjects where it definitely helps to have "male-speak"). He always reads more complicated books that we'd like to use before making the final decision as to whether they're age-appropriate....he read through "Man and Woman, He Created Them", in its entirety, even though he had already read ToB, before assigning it for our older son's senior year. Dh also grades & records our sons' work (something he started for insurance purposes, when our older son was a new driver...it enables us to receive a good student discount rate).
My beloved husband has generously supported our homeschooling financially throughout the entire 20 years we've been on this journey! He never balks at the financial costs and has often helped me in choosing materials during recent years, especially when I'm struggling with decisions. He programmed a lesson plan format in Excel, which we've used for quite a few years now. and doesn't even flinch when I goof things up while cutting, pasting and deleting. He always proofs the master plan and prints up the final pages for me, as well!
Having dh involved has been a growing process which has evolved very gradually and truly blossomed as our homeschooling has matured. I'm so thankful to have the cooperative spirit and unity God has blessed us with, especially since our early years of homeschooling were much more challenging. For those homeschooling mothers who are going it alone or whose dhs aren't involved, don't be discouraged...our progress has taken 20 long, sometimes very difficult, years...it was worth the wait!
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Dear ladies.
Sorry to be so late in replying .
I am struggling trying to cover all my online bases.
Thank you for yoru input
I find my self planning and organising and not having much imput from deas huband.
I wonder if he just isn't used to this lifestyle after being away for so long and forgets to ask questions etc.
We have been on tight budget for so long that I find myself having to sourse online or free resources and that takes extra planning for all the children.
I was tired and a little down when I posted and finding Moran and her needs a bit overwhelming.
Thank you for the emotional support
I pray your homeshcool years are productive for you all
God Bless
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