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Posted: Dec 04 2007 at 7:54am | IP Logged Quote Natalia

I am lacking peace. The kids are bickering, I am getting mad at them, too much noise bothers me, my mind is running a mile a minute, my dh is working long hours this week (and is going to be working on Christmas Even and Christmas day). Well, you get the picture. So, my question to y'all is how do you regain peace when you have lost it?

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Posted: Dec 04 2007 at 8:08am | IP Logged Quote Mary Chris

Can you go to a favorite park? Sometimes I just need to get outside and then I get start to feel peaceful again.


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Posted: Dec 04 2007 at 8:21am | IP Logged Quote Mary G

Natalia, I'm with you .... but for me it's self-imposed as I'm trying to do it all! Which of course doesn't work and then I get mad that it doesn't ... or that the kids aren't "into it" or whatever ...

One thing that really helps is stopping ... making cups of tea ... and watching a silly video (something Christmasy or just plain fun) ... just doing something mindless and enjoying being with the kids.

But I do have to MAKE myself stop ... a priest told me the problem is that I have a corporate mentality and am trying to run everything like a business... Just having someone describe it has helped me fight it.

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Posted: Dec 04 2007 at 9:34am | IP Logged Quote marihalojen

Exercise.
When dd was littler we had a great fenced in park where she could play and I could stomp out lap after lap around and around the fence on the walking trail. I remember there was only one place I couldn't see her, the pool building was in the way so I always sprinted that part. I knew I was calming down and regaining my balance when I wasn't looking forward to that sprint anymore!

People say yoga is calming (and it is, generally) but sometimes I just need to sweat it out!

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Posted: Dec 04 2007 at 9:51am | IP Logged Quote teachingmyown

Do you have an Advent cradle for Baby Jesus? Wrap a shoebox up in brown paper and declare it the cradle for Baby Jesus. Cut up straw-colored yarn into little strips and put it next to the cradle. Tell your children that they need to fill the cradle by Christmas for Jesus to make it comfortable for Him. They do this by making little sacrifices and good deeds. This is something that really helps turn my kids around. I, too, tend to get really stressed during Advent, wanting to make sure we are getting it all done. The whole Advent "experience". Unfortunately, this doesn't necessarily bring us closer to the Christ Child come Christmas morning.
This year I have no choice but to simplify.

God bless you all!

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Posted: Dec 04 2007 at 10:01am | IP Logged Quote Cay Gibson

Natalia,
I understand. My Advent began full of turmoil and lack of peace. And that's why Christ send us each other. Friends have helped me get through week.

Nancy Brown has been guiding me at how Christ calls me to "Come Be My Light".

I just finished reading How Advent Came To Colleen's House and I can see God's hand at work in all our lives.

You are in my Advent prayers. I do hope it gets better (and more peaceful) for you.



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Posted: Dec 05 2007 at 12:01am | IP Logged Quote Chari

I am not totally out of peace, Natalia.......but close, so I can relate.

Praying for you.......all of you.......all of us!




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Posted: Dec 05 2007 at 5:59pm | IP Logged Quote Angie Mc

I'm with you, Natalia . Great suggestions, ladies. For me, I had to pinpoint where my problem was. It took me a week to see that my routine and mother culture were good enough but that the exceptions to my routine were too much for me. Here's more.

It makes me happy to know that we are in this together and praying for each other.

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Posted: Dec 05 2007 at 8:08pm | IP Logged Quote Natalia

Thanks everyone for the great suggestions. Maybe my question should be what do you do to avoid loosing your peace .

Things are a little better put I don't think I will fully recover any sense of peace until I get my Christmas shopping done. It is constantly in my mind.

Angie, I loved your post on exceptions. I never thought about describing it this way. You are right, one of the things that cause me to "flip out" is interruptions. I hate interruptions!

I also think that for me homeschooling has become totally encompassing. I have allowed homeschooling to become my life. It seems that I am constantly thinking about what to do next, what books to read to the kids, what activity , what experience to offer them. I am always searching for the "perfect" activity, the best book. I reinvent my own wheel constantly because I change me mind mid course. And is getting to me... I need to learn to keep it SIMPLE. I think I might adopt Julie Bogart's one thing idea.

For this season, I need to stop looking for the perfect gift for those family members that live far away and who I don't know very well. I need to stop thinking about presents and just get them. I need to order the stuff on my Amazon cart and stop thinking about it!

I need to get INTO bed early so that I can get OUT of bed early enough to have my prayer time BEFORE the kids get up.

I need to be preventive - stop myself before I get to a crisis. Thanks for letting me talk,

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