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Posted: Sept 16 2008 at 12:31pm \| IP Logged

How do you deal with the days when you WANT to take control and direct things? How do you let that go?

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Posted: Sept 16 2008 at 3:21pm \| IP Logged

Sometimes, I just do. Even though I do consider us to be "unschoolers", we do usually have a plan for the day and goals that we want to meet. My kids take part in making those plans and we abandon them if something really good comes along.

There are times when I push my agenda through, just like there are times when they push their agenda. For us it all balances out.

IMO, to make unschooling work in our family, we all need to have our needs met and sometimes I need to tick some things off my learning checklist! The great thing about being an unschooler is that it is such a broad term and can mean so many things for each family. You have to do what works for your family, and sometimes that means pushing mom's agenda.

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Posted: Sept 16 2008 at 8:47pm \| IP Logged

I know we talked about this on the Unschooling Catholics email list but ~

For me, it helps to look at the context. Is it because I know the child and a little bit of direction is really needed right now? Is the control feeling arising out of a bad feeling, a reaction to something – feeling like my kids or I look bad to others or that we aren’t meeting some ideal?

Or am I wanting to control more because I feel I am out of control in other areas of my life and controlling THIS THING, THIS CHILD will make me feel better – even though it may not be right to be so directive of my kids right now.

If I can look at the context, it helps. Take a breath. Figure out why. Maybe the direction is needed – I will go ahead and direct. Maybe we can take a break, have a meeting or a talk, consciously decide to go with the flow, look at solutions…

Can you give an example ?

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