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Marie
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This is great! I don't have a chance to write out my thoughts but its already making more aware of my gut thoughts and responses today. Thanks Angie! I look forward to the rest.
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Reading and thinking...
Just little time to post. 
Thanks Angie and everyone who has joined in to share!
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Mackfam wrote:
| Is this right, Angie? I had a lot to catch up on tonight. I had to think about some of my knee-jerk reactions... |
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Absolutely! There's no right or wrong here. We are brainstorming and discovering together.
Mackfam wrote:
| I found myself saying "well, I know what I'd want to do, but what would I really do instead in the heat of the moment?" |
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Exactly! We desire to be Christ-like, to be saints. We have a picture of who we want to be and how we want to behave. Without this desire, this picture, we would be lost.
Mackfam wrote:
| It was hard because I've been really trying to change some of my reactions...in fact I've really been trying to *react* less and instead reply which leaves time for thought and prayer and leaves some subjects without harsh words. |
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Yes! This material and practice are about helping us to avoid knee-jerk reactions by understanding our habits of thought better. For those who have developed helpful habits of behavior like taking a deep breath, walking away, closing eyes, and other "pause" reactions will find this all very helpful because it helps to get to the "pause" more quickly and it helps to calm down more quickly while we're paused. For those who haven't been able to aquire these pausing habits easily, this may help make it easier!
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| I hope I didn't skew the first day's exercise. Looking forward to tomorrow. |
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No way! Your sharing has given us all a lot to think about. I'm looking forward to tomorrow too  . Thank you, all for your encouragement and feedback.
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Angie, I hardly know where to start; I hope it is not too late to begin.
Doorbell: We have so many deliveries here that it does not startle me to much. My dc are older, but typically tend to shy away from answering the door.
Crafts: I love all of the crafts posted here, but my dc rarely want to craft anymore. And I have not replaced all my craft supplies, so I tend to think that the ideas are lovely, but just not for us at this point in life.
Lies: I would be crushed and feel as if I am a total failure. Since I have one ds that lies habitually, the others are almost too honest. It is as if they know that they cannot lie. If I caught one of them lying to me I am sure I would show my immense disappointment pretty quickly. I would probably cry.
Clothing: We visit this situation especially on Sundays. Our response has always been that they will dress nice for church, that is the rule, and they will follow it. No more questioning.
Diet: My dh loves pretty much everything I cook. We really haven't had a call for dietary change, but if we did he would probably support me. At least I think he would ...
I hope this is alright. I am not certain that I am going about this in the right way. But thank you for motivating us to think.
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Carole N. wrote:
| I hope this is alright. I am not certain that I am going about this in the right way. But thank you for motivating us to think. |
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You are welcome, Carole  . Perfect!
Yes! This topic is open for brainstorming and practice for "catching" our thoughts and feelings. This is hard work!... especially since wives and mothers are by duty behaviorally oriented, moving from one task to the next and most often mult-tasking.
Are there any questions about this?:
ACTION -> THOUGHT -> FEELING -> BEHAVIOR (REACTION)
Be sure to check out How we think - distortions next.
Love,
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Topic: How we think and feel - 2. Let's begin!
