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Elizabeth wrote:
| One thing that has impressed me as I re-read the beginning of Story of a Soul was Zelie Martin's careful observations in writing. She recorded very subtle nuances about her child. I'd like to do that... |
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This is a concept that is really well planned out in Mary Ann Budnik's book Raise Happy Children...Teach Them Virtues!. She explains the four temperaments very nicely and then provides a thought provoking examination of conscious for each temperament. Then she clearly sets out instructions for creating a 'virtues notebook' that can be a game plan for working on strong and weak points in a child's character growth. I personally didn't know the part about Zelie Martin doing a variation on this idea. Or if I did, I just plain forgot! I'm sure Mrs. Budnik did know it though because in the second volume of the "Raise Happy Children" series she does a nice examination of the Martin family.
I pleased as punch to hear about Zelie Martin using this method though because I always feel a bit 'crazy' for going to such details sometimes. Time to ramp up my notebook again! 
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Marybeth wrote:
There were five children in my family growing up. My Dad would offer up his rosary one day for each child. He would always mix up the days and tell us at dinner who he prayed for that day. He always said his rosary on the train going to and from work. It always made us feel very special. I love the fact now as an adult that every Sat. his rosary was for my Mom. I didn't appreciate that fully as a child. 
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What a beautiful thing--your father is very special. When I still had five, I purchased personalized rosaries with each of their names on the five decades (and gave similar rosaries to my husband, mother, and father for Christmas). These beads are a treasure and a wonderful reminder to pray for each child individually every day.
Now that we have six children, I need to have the beads updated!
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Alice,
I am going to order some of the personalized rosaries for gifts. Thank you for the link. God bless.
Marybeth
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Every time I mean to post something here, I feel inspired to go spend one-on-one time with my kids.
Elizabeth wrote:
Zelie Martin's careful observations in writing. She recorded very subtle nuances about her child. I'd like to do that... |
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I actually started doing something like this based on a similar convversation on a Montessori egroup. What finally worked was that every day at a certain time, I stopped doing whatever I was doing and wrote in my journal what a particular child was doing for those 10 minutes. If nothinge was happening (they are both asleep) , I would record something that happened earlier. Journaling doesn't come natural to me and sometimes I get busy with just holding up the fort. But this seemed to have worked and I have learnt a lot about my children but just focusing 10 minutes on each child every day.
Alice: Love the link!
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I am inspired to start journaling today! Hopefully I can cultivate this habit. I know Flylady says it takes 21 days to make something a habit.
My ds just asked me why my x-ray vision isn't working today!?! Nice to know he thinks I have in the first place.
Marybeth
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When I had five kids I used to say a decade for each child and for their future spouses or vocations. I prayed for DH separately. Now that I have 7 kids, I have to think of a separate system. Recently I've been using the virtues that go with the mysteries to intercede for the child that might have particular need of that virtue or gift. But I think I will try Marybeth's Dad's idea of praying different Rosaries for different kids and using that time to focus on them.
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I just printed off The Domestic Monastery. Thank you for the link. I think this article is very timely for me. I finish volunteering with several organizations soon which will greatly free up my time. Hopefully I will use my new found time/freedom wisely.
I plan to reread Mothers Rule of Life and get started on the areas in my life which need a little fine tuning.
Glad my Dad's rosary "system" will work out for some of you with larger families. I am a Daddy's girl so I always love knowing he is thinking about me and praying for me.
God bless,
Marybeth
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Leonie wrote:
| So, here I am. I am learning again to focus on truly being with my family - and to only use "set" times for other reading or the internet. I am trying to make those times the times *not when no-one needs me - I am trying to be with dh and the kids whether there is a need or not! lol! |
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Leonie, thank you for this! Your words have stuck with me since the day you posted them, and they have made a difference in my life!! I just figured that if no one actually needed me at that moment, it must be a free moment! But, I'm inflicting myself upon them need it or not . Seriously, though, I discovered that my boys just didn't disturb me if I was on the computer, and I thought they didn't need me because they were off playing--a catch-22. I've played more board games and construction trucks, had the two littles outside on the swings and for walks. Thank you, thank you, for the little kick, Leonie!
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Marybeth wrote:
| Glad my Dad's rosary "system" will work out for some of you with larger families. I am a Daddy's girl so I always love knowing he is thinking about me and praying for me. |
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I love this! Since I currently have 5 children and a husband , your dad's system would work great for me! Thanks for the suggestion!
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