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Posted: June 04 2010 at 10:40am | IP Logged Quote DivineMercy

Janet,

My husband loves Connections. If you want to see what they are like there is a channel on YouTube with some of the shows. The "path" of the shows are similar to the books. Hope that helps.

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Posted: June 04 2010 at 11:43am | IP Logged Quote Becky Parker

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Part of the secret of being a mom of many is that you reach a point where you realize you CANNOT be all things to all children at the same time, and as a result the kids learn to help each other out, share, and work independently. What I think I was doing in homeschooling was trying to be the all-knowing HS mommy to all at the same time, and I was burning out fast.



These are wise words Ouiz! I need to remember them! As I've prayed about the coming year I'm feeling more and more that I need to help my older kids be more independent. I really believe that will make a difference. I think my "controlling tendencies" keep me from allowing my kids to grow in the independence they truly need to develop.
...Any tips on how to do that?    Maybe this is a topic for a new thread?

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Posted: June 04 2010 at 9:00pm | IP Logged Quote Ouiz

Becky, you too? I'm relieved to know I'm not the one mom who finds this a bit difficult!

I just know I was so overwhelmed with the coming year, and over and over again I kept hearing that I needed to do each kid separately. I laughed and told my friends, "Either this is coming from the Lord, or it is the most insane idea I've ever had." As I mentioned that to one friend in particular -- that it was an insane idea because I don't have enough time to teach them all as it is -- she said:

"Well, isn't that the goal? To give them the tools to become independent?"

As soon as she said that I knew that those were the words I was supposed to hear. I was trying too hard, and now it was time to let them become more independent.

So like Becky said, I hope someone's got some good ideas, because I'm a controlling type as well, and this is going to be VERY hard for me!

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Posted: June 04 2010 at 9:22pm | IP Logged Quote SeaStar

I have been following this conversation with interest, especially since I notice that my ds wants me to sit with him a lot while he does his work. Not a big deal for me, since I only have the two kids, BUT: sheesh!

Why is it he never can finish his work if I'm sitting there, but if I tell him to go find a quiet spot somewhere in the house and finish his copywork, it's done in a quarter of the time?

I think there is a lot to this independent work thing...

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Everything will be very different. Enrolling in the local Catholic School. 2nd grade, 1st grade and Kindergarten. I'll have the toddler and baby at home...and I'm trying to be positive about it.   

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Posted: June 09 2010 at 6:27am | IP Logged Quote Becky Parker

Stephanie! I know that must be difficult! When my ds went to highschool I cried and anguished that we had done the wrong thing. But God was in the decision, even though I didn't understand it AT ALL and now he is doing so well. Don't fret. I don't know the exact words but I do know that "God works for the good all things for those who have faith in Him". (I really need to memorize the right words to that verse! )

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Posted: June 09 2010 at 6:33am | IP Logged Quote Becky Parker

Ouiz wrote:

"Well, isn't that the goal? To give them the tools to become independent?"



You know, when I think of the truth of this, and the situation with my oldest child, I think God needed me to put him in highschool so he could develop that independence. I'm sure that's not the case for everyone, but it seems to be what was needed here.
I highly doubt my other children will go to highschool, not because it's a bad school, but because of their personalities, learning styles, etc. So I better get on the stick with this fostering independence thing.

I'm thinking baby steps, but maybe that's for me not the kids!    Workboxes have really helped in the past couple of years but there are still some areas where my kids want me by their side. I can totally understand this if it involves discussion or something for which I need to be there. But if it's just watching them do their math problems or copywork, then it's just too draining on my time and keeps me from working with the other kids. So our first step will be deciding which subjects are independent and really working towards that.

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