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Tina P.
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What does everyone think about husbands having a forum? I was telling my husband about all that we discussed on the elegant kitchen thread and how long it is and he said, "Why don't the husbands get to talk about how their workshops are organized and what their garages look like and why don't we call it a rope instead of a thread?" 
Really, I don't know how much of that was a joke and how much he really meant that maybe the husbands of homeschoolers need the support of each other as well. My poor husband has only me (we're meeting other hsers and families, but it's relatively slow-going during summer) to talk with and remind him how great homeschooling is and frankly, sometimes I like it less than he does.  Any thoughts?
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Tina,
Funny I was sharing with dh what I learned from the same thread and printed it out for him. It was great and my dh had his own ideas after reading the articles!
I have often thought about that. Even homeschool functions are held mostly during the day when dads are at work. I know that this is because people are preserving their family time with dad - but it also means that dads have almost no contact with other like-minded dads. They don't have the support network we do (call it contacts if that sounds more masculine) for the sharing of ideas. Does your dh have any ideas? I'll ask mine too about what he thinks. I'm not sure what time they have after working all day and then needing time with wife and family - but I really want to ask him what he thinks.
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Truthfully, I don't know if I could see my dh participating in such a forum, but I could tell you he needs it!
He really struggles with feeling unsupported for trying to live against the culture....and I think to know that other men are trying just as hard as he is...well, I think it might boost his confidence a bit.
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I think a beer with Tim whenever Mike's in HOuston is about as close as my dh is going to get to a spouse's forum, but I'm listening...
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I think I'D be more interested in hearing what other homeschool dads talk about than my dh would! 
I think my chatter (summarized versions of what I'm gathering from these uplifting boards) is probably enough for him for now. It's a trade-off: I fill him in on all my homeschool-chat and he fills me in on all things farm-related.
Being counter-cultural isn't too hard when you're surrounded all day by more livestock than people. And yes, my dh prefers it that way! But I'll ask him...
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It would depend on the dh's personality, really. Generally, men's nature doesn't need to talk things out with others. That's in a women's nature. BUT, there are men who are great at sharing ideas and giving advice. I know my dh wouldn't visit or share. It's just not his way. Unless, of course, you were talking about Penn State or Pittsburgh Steeler Football, or golf.  He just doesn't want to talk about fathering or spiritual life on forums.
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JennGM wrote:
| I know my dh wouldn't visit or share. It's just not his way. Unless, of course, you were talking about Penn State or Pittsburgh Steeler Football, or golf. He just doesn't want to talk about fathering or spiritual life on forums. |
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I was thinking more about them talking about how they can be more involved in homeschooling. Perhaps our husbands can't work and help teach subjects, but there are several ways in which they can be part of the whole. My husband almost didn't like my choice to breastfeed our kids because he wasn't involved in any way (so he thought ~ he's since recovered ). In the same way, he has tons of questions about homeschooling that I just can't answer. He doesn't know how to support our choice to homeschool. Occasionally, he'll just fire this at me: "We need to send them to school so you can have a life." I don't know how to explain to him that homeschooling my kids and having them all around me IS my life, frustrating as it may be sometimes.
I imagine he feels how I, a cradle Catholic, feel when people question my faith. Because I'm a cradle Catholic, I never questioned my religion enough to be able to refute these questioners without serious study. I just thought that men conversing with other men ~ and that's important because if I talk with my husband about issues I'm having homeschooling, he just wonders why I go through with it ~ online to show them how imperative it is to support your spouse in this endeavor.
Besides this, what would be wrong with talking about sports or different brands of beer or whatever to break the ice?
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