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Michaela
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Posted: Nov 15 2005 at 5:21pm \| IP Logged

I know this will be covered in RCIA, but I would like a little heads up about it now.

It hasn't been talked about at all, but I'm sure that DH and I need to have our marriage convalidated before I can be in full communion with the church. Is it something that I can just call Father to have done or should I wait until it's brought up in RCIA?

(Background info: DH and I have never been married before. DH is confirmed and although I was baptized Catholic it's as far as I got. )

Thanks for any info!

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Posted: Nov 15 2005 at 6:19pm \| IP Logged

It will come up in RCIA but there is no reason to wait if you don't have to. I would call your priest to talk about it now instead of waiting. In addition to needing to have that done to be in full communion with the Church for you when you are confirmed and receive communion, this has bearing on your husband's situation as well. To have the marriage convalidated as soon as possible enables him to return to the sacraments. Also helps with issues related to marital/conjugal relations and the marriage.

I don't have personal experience but have a couple friends who have gone through the process of convalidation. We were witnesses for one couple when they had their covalidation. When there are no impediments to the covalidation - as it would be in your case (no previous marriages, both baptised) the process is very simple. There is no reason it couldn't be in the process as soon as possible.

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Posted: Nov 15 2005 at 9:28pm \| IP Logged

My dh and I were married in a protestant church. Our convalidation was very simple. The priest came over to our house and just filled out some paperwork over supper and then we had a very simple service with just our kids and my mother there.

We didn't have it done until several years after we joined the church? My dh was Catholic, but was never confirmed until we joined together. I suppose it doesn't matter now because it's done, but should it have been done before we joined the church?

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Posted: Nov 15 2005 at 11:17pm \| IP Logged

MaryM wrote:

To have the marriage convalidated as soon as possible enables him to return to the sacraments. Also helps with issues related to marital/conjugal relations and the marriage.

That's exactly why I wondered if we had to wait until our instructor brought it up in class. I don't know if the church usually has everyone who needed their marriage convalidated in RCIA do this together.

We'd prefer not to wait now that we understand that not only should DH continue to wait to receive the sacrament, but also what I believe it means regarding our relations. (He doesn't know, but I just found out.)

Tomorrow morning I'll call the church to talk to Father.

Thank you.

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Posted: Nov 16 2005 at 5:59pm \| IP Logged

Michaela wrote:

Tomorrow morning I'll call the church to talk to Father.

Good decision and initiative, Michaela. I'll hold you in prayer tomorrow morning.

God bless,

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