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Michaela
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I've noticed that my husband does not have a PRACTICING Christian man in his life. We've discussed it a few times, too.
An example is we have talked about more children. Without the influence of other Catholic men, I see the struggle...secular influence...that he is old....money...college...that he will have to work until he dies (never be able to fully retire)to provide for us.
About a month ago, we saw one of those reality shows  the day-in-the-life of a Catholic family with 17 children. (Ages about 27yo down to 4yo) It was amazing. I could see the positive transformation in him as he was watching it. He has NEVER seen anything like that. Even though he has eight siblings from his mom and six from dad....they were never married...he never met his dad until he was about 7 years old. That was when his mom couldn't handle him anymore and sent him off.
....seeing a family of many, married, dealing with the noise and activity level, the age of the parents not a big deal....he even asked twice how old the father was. Surprised, in a good way. That little glimpse affirmed everything that I've been thinking.
However, our reality is different. I pray often that a positive Catholic influence will come into his life.
I can teach him about our faith, but for it to come from another Catholic man would have more impact.
Does your husband have a Catholic man who is a positive influence in his life? or a man who is a non-Catholic Christian?
edited to ask: In addition to prayer, are there actions we could take or maybe your husband took to meet more Catholic men? He wanted to join the KofC, but his work schedule makes it impossible.
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Not yet. And I am praying. I understand what you mean. When he hangs out with the work gang all the time we end up being from different planets 
I am with you....
Anne
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After a little introspection, I realize my post really isn't about my husband but rather me.
Seeking IRL Catholic women like you ladies on the board to help me to grow in my faith.
It feels lonely to be a relatively new Catholic Christian. Not to have ANYONE IRL who is a Christian.
Reading your blogs for a little taste of what it's like to be a Catholic family....because I'm not doing this right, but don't know exactly how to.
Oh well, time to take care of my family. That's what it's all about. 
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It is hard for everybody! I became Catholic four years ago now and my one close Catholic friend has moved. I think that's why I spend so much time here  But it is hard with few IRL friends.
My DH is a cradle Catholic but had few practicing Catholic friends until he started working at a Catholic elementary school which has been an incredible learning experience for him. Your DH can always join the Knights and participate as he is able. They have a good magazine that you get monthly when you join. At least in our parish, you don't have to be " active" to join. Just a thought.
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I can't imagine not being surrounded by other Catholic homeschooling families, so I really feel for you.  We are blessed to live where we do.
That said, another way to get that influence when you can't get it in person is through tape sets by the likes of Steve Wood, Dr James Stenson, Scott Hahn and other great Catholic men. If you go to St Joseph Communications, you can find lots of great materials for Catholic men.
Here is the link to Steve Wood's website Dads.org which also has some good resources.
I know it isn't the same as hanging around other families living the same lifestyle, but it is a start.
God bless,
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Could he become a Knight, but just not be as deeply involved as some members are? My husband was away a lot the first few years he was a Knight so he wasn't able to make it to a lot of meetings, but they were there when he was able to go. Then as his schedule relaxed some he was able to get more involved.
Or, my husband is leading a Bible study at our Church, it is likely that he will meet some more Catholic men that way. Would your husband do that? Or perhaps even mention the idea to the priest, and maybe he could get something going and your husband could just particiapte?
Blessings,
Beth
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Michaela, Molly beat me to suggesting tapes by and for men  .
Here's one more thought that I hope cheers you. I like and need to have regular and ongoing contact with women friends. My dh has reminded me on several occasions, that he just wants and needs to spend time with me and our children. His work life is filled with people so when he comes home he's all *peopled out*. My guess is that your witness means the world to your dh and is having more of an impact than you would guess.
How about developing a relationship with a local priest or deacon? I'm praying for your intentions.
Love,
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