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Posted: Dec 20 2006 at 2:06pm | IP Logged Quote mom2mpr

I am here feeling sorry for myself wishing I had more to deal with--more kids. I have 2 that are 5 years apart-1 boy and 1 (difficult/hormonal? ) girl. I just wish they had more playmates as Momma is getting weary of playing and trying to keep the household together. Dh is working way too much and is zero help on the homefront. We live near no family. Holiday stuff is fun but now sending me into Bah Humbug land. I have no idea how I am going to wrap their gifts since I crash with the kids at 9pm and we are always together. DD,who will turn 4 on Friday, has just been too difficult. Wants everything HER way and it is not pretty if she doesn't get it--hitting, lots of screaming, slamming doors, I guess there is a lot of anger here. I am trying to make a concerted effort to play with her and let her do some choosing of things to do and play, but after the effort by me she still wants what she wants--and more. She has been so hard. Schoolwork is hard to do because she is trying to run the show here and ds and I can't operate with her noise. She won't stay in her room or on a time out chair. I have found that more time in and trying to talk to her seems to yield a little more success-but it is soooo time consuming and I spend the whole day dealing with her and ds just muddles through since he is not yet independent in his day. I STILL after 9 years have to be on him to brush his teeth! He seems so lonely and I get so sad because I actually ENJOY spending time with him.
I have resorted to videos, please help me feel not so guilty about this, just to get some bills paid and a minute to myself. I have a hard time with this because I always said I would make my kids' life so rich with experiences and life that we wouldn't need to sit and watch.
Thanks for listening if you have made it this far. I do feel a little better getting it out there. So, does anyone have fewer kids and many years between them? How do you get things done? Help me feel less guilty about the videos. Tell me about 4 year old girls--she is so much harder than ds-and
I feel bad I am not enjoying her at this fun age as much as I did ds. DS is ahead of the curve and dd is average and that makes the spacing all that much harder to deal with the 2 of them together. I think of school and feel guilty about that-it would have to be public school and honestly it would just be babystitting for ds. I think of preschool for dd. Give ds and I a break and her something of her own. But, I really wanted to keep my kids home with me.
Ideas, prayers, thoughts, HELP!!
Off to see the end of Mary Poppins with the kids! Thanks for listening.
Anne
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Posted: Dec 20 2006 at 3:10pm | IP Logged Quote Paula in MN

Well, my kids are 23, 7 and 4. How's that for spacing?

I don't know that I have any advice for you. Each child is different and the way we all parent is different, too. I know my 4ds acts like your 4dd at times, and then it is very hard for my 7dd to concentrate on learning.

I try to keep him involved with what we are doing -- a lot of math games, geography puzzles, monopoly. I tried the movie approach and it actually worked too well -- I don't want my kids in front of the TV. So we worked out a deal -- he has lessons with us OR plays quietly while we work. If he does that, he is allowed to watch one hour of TV -- whether it is a movie or a show on EWTN (I still keep some control!). If he doesn't cooperate, he loses the TV/movie option for two days.

It is working pretty well! And I have to say my dd's were a lot easier than my ds!!

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