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I've only been concerned with modesty in dress for 3 or 4 years. I still have lots of stuff that even if I'm ever the size for it again, I know I won't be wearing as is. I even have some stuff that might fit now that's not so modest (upwards of size 14.)
Not all of these old clothes are glaringly immodest. Some of it I might be erring on the side of caution about, but some of it is too "s*xy" and enough of it is just too short, too low-cut etc.
I don't currently sew and it's hard to imagine that all of this stuff can be altered effectively into modest clothing, let alone that it would be worth the effort. I would be willing to send you some of it if you are a good seamstress and have the creativity and the talent! I'm just beginning to sort through these long-untouched items though.
Any ideas? It's not always or often the right texture for a dust or dish rag! Giving it away doesn't seem like a great solution for ridding myself of "immodest clothing" but should I consider that if it's just an issue of a slightly too short skirt or too low neckline, it might fit other women differently, and give the benefit of the doubt to the thrift store shopper to choose appropriate clothing for herself?
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insegnante wrote:
but should I consider that if it's just an issue of a slightly too short skirt or too low neckline, it might fit other women differently, and give the benefit of the doubt to the thrift store shopper to choose appropriate clothing for herself?
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That's correct something may be too 'sexy' for you because it is too tight but for someone a size or two smaller it's not at all.
I know that some things I've decided are too immodest for me due to length or tightness are perfectly fine on my young teenage daughter who is several sizes smalller than I am now. 
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Erin wrote:
That's correct something may be too 'sexy' for you because it is too tight but for someone a size or two smaller it's not at all. |
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Yes, I can easily see that with the size and tightness issues (I think I'd just look yucky in most tight things anyway!) But I'm not sure how much different necklines can be? Or length -- I'm a bit less than 5'4", so there are plenty of women shorter than me, but I don't know how many are so short that the height makes a big difference to wear skirts I'd judge "immodest" for me because of shortness. It seems that skirts meant to be longer are often shaped differently from the shorter ones.
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We have been the lucky recipients of hand-me-down clothing for our kids off and on throughout the years. The things given to my daughter are often inappropriate for a little girl (in my opinion). I pass these things on to Goodwill. I will not donate them to another family or organization that might be tempted to use them against their better judgement just because they are handy. If I give them to Goodwill, then someone will sift through the racks and CHOOSE to BUY them. This way, I feel that Goodwill benefits from the donation and the buyer has the choice to buy clothing she likes at a discounted price. (Oh, and I get rid of the clothes we won't wear)...
If you are having trouble parting with them because you are trying to be frugal, then I think it is much more worth your time and energy to just take the tax write off than to try to alter the clothes.
If you are having trouble parting with them because you are sentimental, then cut them down to squares and make a quilt.
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MichelleW wrote:
If you are having trouble parting with them because you are trying to be frugal, then I think it is much more worth your time and energy to just take the tax write off than to try to alter the clothes.
If you are having trouble parting with them because you are sentimental, then cut them down to squares and make a quilt. |
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Thanks for the input. I'd actually love to get rid of a truckload of stuff, so I'm just concerned about giving away stuff that maybe no one "should" wear. I do not have really strong opinions about what is immodest beyond the obvious but I am easily influenced and tend to the scrupulous side. As for frugality, once I have stuff sorted out I'll pare down post-weight loss clothing to a limited wardrobe from whatever I can see myself wearing. There will probably be some nice stuff left over to give away.
The quilt idea is intriguing for those things that are otherwise nice but just going to be ridiculously short or low-cut on almost any grown woman, etc. Or maybe we'll have a little girl someday and someone here will know how to make doll clothes out of them.
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If you feel bad about tossing immodest stuff completely - if the material is "interesting" around here we often keep it to use in "crafts". I put that in quotes because crafts to my oldest could be her cutting it up to use as a little doll blanket, or trying to sew, or simply tying it with yarn around a doll, lol. I'm not real crafty to do something NICE with it.  But extra fabric comes in handy for things like that.
If you think it would be immodest on ANYONE, even as some kind of "dress up" for kids, or craft material, etc, I don't think it is wrong to simply toss it. It shouldn't have been made in the first place and you'd be doing the world a favor.  (and this is a big thing for me to say because I often think just like you - decluttering so *I* don't want anything, but thinking its wasteful to just throw something away)
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I rang my local op-shop once and asked them did they want the raggy things as well. They said 'yes' because they use them in rag bags that are made up by the sheltered workshop people for... If you really can't handle the idea of throwing in the bin you could cut them in half and put them in a bag labelled 'rags'.
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layers?
many things that are too tight but have high necklines look very nice under things that are looser but too low.
It is a common look in my heavily mormon neighborhood and not unatractive- i wish they were more neckline conscience at my parish 
If they are raggy put them in a bag and give them to your dh if you cant bear to trash them yourself.
Dh gives me his ratty t-shirts(the ones that are literally 20 yrs old with rock bands on them )in bags so i can chuck them when he is not around -he cant bear to watch 
As the saying goes when in doubt throw it out.
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CathinCoffeland wrote:
Dh gives me his ratty t-shirts(the ones that are literally 20 yrs old with rock bands on them )in bags so i can chuck them when he is not around -he cant bear to watch
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I'm in stitches here. I have this mental image of your dh sitting pleading wtih his hand over his eyes and head adverted, "oh no, no please don't not my FAVOURITE!!"
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