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TryingMyBest
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I gave notice today. I thought I might chicken out but I went through with it. Now to just through my last month of gainful employment...
I'm still shaking a little bit. I know in my heart that this is the right thing for my family but it's still scares the living heck out of me.
I also just told my parents about my homeschooling plans and my mom's response was "do you need us to help pay for school tuition?" She didn't mean it in an unsupportive way. My parents bend over backwards to be respectful of their childrens' choices, even when they disagree. But homeschooling is so alien to them because hardly anyone did it in the 1970's and 1980's. She was really surprised to learn that there are homeschooling families at their parish. My mom is of the generation that believes that if a school says "Catholic" that it's Catholic and can't understand why we would have reservations about the local Catholic schools. I think it went well even though I don't think my parents will ever understand. At least they respect our choices though.
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TryingMyBest wrote:
I don't think my parents will ever understand. At least they respect our choices though.
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Congratulations! If your parents seem this understanding right now, just give it time. Meaning, at least they're not TRYING to understand. That's what I gathered. I bet it won't be long until they see the fruits of your efforts. A harvest and its reward doesn't happen overnight. 
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Let the peace of Christ guide your decisions, even if no one else understands. You will find MARVELOUS support and wonderful ideas in this forum!
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I love that your parents want to help in any way they can. I am sure that they will be open to seeing the benefits of homeschooling and of having you home with their beloved grandchildren. Give it time...but it won't take long!
We announced our decision to homeschool just a couple of months before moving to an overseas military base for two years (the school there was poorly managed and that is how we started our temporary homeschooling journey, which has now lasted 12 years!). My parents were not able to see our children for many months, but they were totally supportive after the first quarter of homeschooling. Even over the phone, they could discern the positive changes in our family.
If you need a frugality pal, PM me...I need one, too, because we are facing a host of unexpected expenses this year. We could start a frugality thread here at 4Real or just encourage each other through prayer...let me know!
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A frugality thread would be great, even though I know there are others I could search for here. I am wanting more than ever to pull my kids from the charter school we have used for many years. They don't take classes there with the exception of a science lab, but it has paid for their piano lessons. Anyway, I have a lot to say about why I want out, but dh is not excited about it because of the money and I have meant to spend the summer looking into alternatives and creative ways to pay for our school expenses.
Congratulations from me too! My parents came around after many years, but they were very unhappy with our decision in the beginning. Your parents sound much more reasonable and I bet they will be super supportive.
God bless you!
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Go you! I know that a lot of us have, at one time or another, been at that "pull the plug" point in our lives, when we knew that our paid work outside the home was hitting the fan, but had to nerve ourselves to go through with the separation from it. It's not easy!
And yes, my parents had much the same reaction as yours: respectful but bewildered. My mother was diplomatically critical for many years -- "Can I pay for preschool? I think that child could use some structure," etc. -- but is far more open, receptive, and admiring (I think) of our choice today, especially as we've successfully graduated one. Even before that, though, seeing what was available to our children in the way of activities and friendships went a long way toward allaying her worries. Our Catholicism still bugs her, but she seems to be getting more or less used to it, finally. I doubt, short of a miracle, that she'll ever understand . . . by comparison, the homeschooling thing is easy to swallow!
We were pretty circumspect with our families, especially in our early years of homeschooling, and especially when things were rough. We had some bad days in the beginning, as most people do from time to time, and when that happened, my mother was NOT the person I talked to! I saved the better stuff to share with her. Creating a sort of safety filter between us and our families was crucial in the beginning and helped to stave off a lot of nerve-wracking questions and criticisms. I'm a lot more open nowadays about what we do, because the machine has been up and running a long time, and I'm a lot more confident about it. In the beginning, my aim was to protect both my family and my own not-very-confident vision of things from . . . not attacks, exactly, but from covert naysaying and the planting of self-doubts.
I will offer my day for your peace of mind and the hearts of all your family.
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Everything they said! 
Congratulations- you are a very brave woman who is following her dream and God's leading for her family.
There will be ups and downs- as there are with kids who go off to school each day.
On bad days I like to think of Moses leading the people in the wilderness...
wandering in circles, lots of complaining, never seeming to get anywhere.
Yeah- Moses is my friend; we could talk.
But God took care of them, and it all turned out fine. And so it will be for all of us.
I'm on board for a new frugality thread for sure!
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Congrats! May your decision bring boundless blessings (even if they first seem trials)! 
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