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I am seriously thinking of getting rid of facebook. It causes me a lot of stress because of horrible posts that I see friends make and because of comments on my page that these same friends post. I have realized that this is really disturbing my peace. I also spend much too much time on facebook when I could be doing something more productive. 
My only problem is that this is basically the only contact I have with relatives that live out of state. I enjoy seeing the pictures of their kids, etc. It is also the way that many of my local friends communicate. Would it be better to just seriously limit the number of friends I have on facebook to only close friends and family? I am still worried that I will spend too much time on facebook though.
Have any of you gone off of the facebook grid? Has this caused you any problems? Thanks so much for your advice!
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You can adjust the posts that show up in your news feed from your friends too.. or limit posts from some friends entirely.. without either blocking them or unfriending them.
So you can adjust it and see if it works better for you that way.
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My husband did, I was never on it. It was too
time-consuming. However, when he tried to cancel his account, it was almost impossible. Very difficult to get out of the whole system.
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Yes, I quit FB because it was way too stressful for the same reasons you posted. I text my very close fiends pics and vice versa. I ditched my long distance family members because my peace was NOT going to be sacrificed for those that are not actively in my life. However, I do use a Groupme app that will send pics and texts to members of a group. My closest family members are spread out across the country and we all keep in touch this way. It is a perfect alternative to FB!!
I do have a FB account with no friends just so I can look up businesses and homeschooling info, etc. I do not communicate with any friends or family through it nor do I post any pics or personal info.
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I simply don't like Facebook so I don't use it.
I love social media, like this message board and twitter, so I get why people enjoy social media in general but there are so many ways to get social needs met outside of Facebook. It's really no biggie to not be on it.
It's also not a virtue to not be on it. I say that because sometimes there is pressure to not be on this or that as a way to show discipline or whatever. For me, social media is like everything else, it's about managing it in a way that is loving, life-giving, serving, and for me - fun. Facebook just wasn't a good fit for me.
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I got off about 3 years ago. I don't miss it one bit. It was well worth the time it saved. 
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Kristinannie
I was on a short time, then went off for 4 years. Have just gone on because my adult children got accounts. Have kept my friend list to 8, children, aunt, siblings.
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kristinannie wrote:
| It causes me a lot of stress because of horrible posts that I see friends make... I have realized that this is really disturbing my peace. I also spend much too much time on facebook when I could be doing something more productive. |
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Can I "like" this status?!   
Sorry, I just couldn't resist and honestly couldn't agree more. It's a bit of an addiction esp. now that I have a "smart" phone! 
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Facebook was one of the things I gave up for Lent. It was GREAT! Seems like such a little thing but it was very freeing to not "have to check" what was going on there. I have yet to get back on. I get emails that tell me when one of my close friends or family members posts something. I've decided to just check those and not even go to the facebook page anymore.
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I've been off and on FB since 2008. I usually go off during Lent, except for Saturdays. It's where the pro-life organization I work with congregate, discuss strategies, design graphics, call for help when engaging in online debates/apologetics, etc., so without it my pro-life work online would be almost zero. It's where I'm most effective at "the New Evangelization" because I can potentially reach 1000+ people with just the touch of a button -- probably 90% of my FB contacts are pro-lifers from around the world. It's how I keep informed on pro-life goings on in Ireland, in Ghana, in the Philippines, in India, in Australia, etc. and that's how we're able to strategize also what to do on the local/national level.
On the local level that's also how we were able to help out with organizing/promoting things like the Religious Freedom rallies, etc. It's how i keep in touch with people like those from Women Speak for Themselves (Dr. Helen Alvare) and 1Flesh and Human Life International, and new and upcoming Catholic apologists (like Brandon Vogt and Marc Barnes) who inspire my children and others (like the guys at Catholic Memes).
I got on FB initially to a) keep tabs on my children and b) to keep in touch with relatives on the other side of the globe. Both things I've been able to do well via FB.
But, on top of that, I found this vibrant, 24-hour community of committed Christians/Catholics/pro-lifers. It's very encouraging especially on a day when all that's available on traditional media (and that I hardly ever get on anymore) is junk, to get on there and see posts from around the world that celebrate life, religious freedom, Christian/Catholic values, etc. Sure, it can be a time suck, but that's largely determined by how you choose to use it. I've also found that because I'm able to "speak the language" my children speak (or at least, understand it), I'm a more effective parent/homeschooler.
I've learned to manage it in the ~5 years I've been off it -- I unfriend people that rob me of my peace, I block people when I post certain things if I already know it's going to cause controversy and provoke a personal attack, etc. Those of us who are working on the same causes usually meet in private, closed groups, so we can discuss things without being subject to prying eyes/negativity.
If you want to try those suggestions and need further guidance, lmk. But if FB is causing you grief and taking you further away from Christ, then it's time to leave FB.
My .02, hope that helps!
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I am on to monitor the kids. They sometimes friend adults, so I friend them as well, it's never been an issue with the adults. It just keeps me in the loop and if anything off is happening, i can see it. I have had the kids remove friends, I do also have their passwords to go and check. Nothing wrong. I also use it with the youth group. I don't post much on my wall, or comment unless it's for the youth groups I'm involved in.
However, I do know how nasty it can be, the gossip, the lies that get spread. The reason I don't post much at all. It is a way to keep in touch with 65 cousins, but we use the messages, and I've been compiling an address book that I'll soon share with everyone, and slowly close out the account for everything but the youth groups and monitor the kids.
So far in this house i'm the computer savvy one, so it hasn't been an issue. I do wish we'd never introduced facebook, it is a time sucker for the kids. I limit it, but it's a constant battle ground.
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Facebook was miserable! I made some changes. This is the only way to see pictures of my nephew who lives 3 hours away and most companies have stopped sending email and this is how I know about sales. I announced I was leaving facebook and was gone a week or two. I came back and took my friend list of 150+ down to less than 50. I only kept close friends and relatives and a few people who this is my only way of contact and those I need to stay in contact with them because of other activities. A couple of those people I don't see any of their stuff in my feed. No one said anything about being dropped as a friend and I told everyone I was leaving so I assume they thought I really left. I feel forced to use it, but I made facebook work for me! I deny friend request every day. I will unfriend a person if their post are not of my moral beliefs. They never say a word about it when I see them IRL. I still have to interact with these people IRL, but I don't need to see the things they post on facebook. If asked I would be honest about it, but they don't ask. With a small friend list I don't spend a lot of time on facebook. My advice is to make it work for you and don't worry what others think.
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oh I totally forgot that part and it's so nice.. I have Lifeteen on my newsfeed. It's a great way to keep up with that program and what they're saying.. And it's almost always nice to read their posts.
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I have "hid" the family members whose status updates rob me of peace. I do enjoy it for keeping in touch with out of state cousins.
I am also being more strict with myself about websites that rob me of peace- so I no longer read blogs or newsites that rob my peace.
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I just don't view status updates. I have a few people that I get their updates through email (family), but I don't log on to view friends' accounts. I mainly use it to keep up with happenings in my homeschool groups and other business pages, but I rarely post anything. When I do post it is usually liking someone's picture or quote. I also don't post about my life or what's on my mind. I think it's easy for me because I also do not have a smartphone, so when I want to be on the computer I have to use the desktop at our house. I also do not FB on my Kindle at all.
Just knowing that it robs you of your peace of mind is a good step in working out how to use it to your benefit. If it's not meeting your needs or causing stress, then find new ways of interacting with it or cease using it.
Good luck in discerning your path! 
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pumpkinmom wrote:
| Facebook was miserable! I made some changes. This is the only way to see pictures of my nephew who lives 3 hours away and most companies have stopped sending email and this is how I know about sales. I announced I was leaving facebook and was gone a week or two. I came back and took my friend list of 150+ down to less than 50. I only kept close friends and relatives and a few people who this is my only way of contact and those I need to stay in contact with them because of other activities. A couple of those people I don't see any of their stuff in my feed. No one said anything about being dropped as a friend and I told everyone I was leaving so I assume they thought I really left. I feel forced to use it, but I made facebook work for me! I deny friend request every dart. I will unfriend a person if their post are not of my moral beliefs. They never say a word about it when I see them IRL. I still have to interact with these people IRL, but I don't need to see the things they post on facebook. If asked I would be honest about it, but they don't ask. With a small friend list I don't spend a lot of time on facebook. My advice is to make it work for you and don't worry what others think. |
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I love, love, love this. Thank you!
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I just deleted my facebook account a few minutes ago. I told my close people I was taking leave but then the more I realized it, I just needed to end it. So I closed it today.
I was wayyyyyyy too addicted. I hear you!
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From Joanna Allen 2013 Marriage Conference, Part 1 (How spouses Reinforce their Role), I loved her comment about FB.
She was leading up talking about communication, what it isn't. It isn't about saying something clearly and bombarding with information. That isn't communication.
Joanna wrote:
It's like Facebook, if you don't go, nobody misses you. There's no communication, nothing. There is no communion; nobody is listening to anybody. You're just putting things out, very clearly with pictures.
That's nothing, that is nothing to do with communication, or at least very, very little. |
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I've never been on FB. I probably will do something later so I can prepare my son slowly how to manage it when he goes off to college....but perhaps by then it will be gone or out of fashion.
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