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BlessedMom
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Never wish this on any of your children!  I was told this as a child all the time and now have 2 just like me. Okay I deserved that, but I also have 2 just like dh!  Think about your childs future spouse before you say "Your going to have a kid just like you" 
Just a discussion I had today with a friend! Thought I'd share. 
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While my own children have enough of me in them to drive me nuts, I've not had one just like me.
Part of that is because I don't have a girl, lol. But I was actually a very easy child, not that I don't have ample faults, but as a baby, I was a DREAM according to my parents. Their friends all insisted they didn't know what it was like to actually have a baby.
I wanna dream baby 
My babies are adorable but demanding  I will say that my easiest baby is the most like me and has been the hardest to parent.
Now, my parents were pretty taken aback when my sister came along. She was a challenging child, and they said that to her all the time, and she did Maybe she'll see this thread and commiserate.
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I heard that a lot too!
Although, my kids have some of both of us, they take more after me because I am with them 24/7. I have had a big dose of reality about myself and I am changing daily to better help my kids.
All those bad habits and attitude are out or going out and all new good habits are taking their place. I do not tell my kids anything that I feel will affect them negatively in the future. They are genius, loving, caring, smart, wonderful...(I could keep going) and I tell them all the time.
I was not a dream child, but my kids, no matter what, are my dream children.
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I had a complete discussion (in my head!  ) about this exact topic today. I heard the same thing too and thought I would ***NEVER*** wish that upon my child. Why would people say that? My DS is by far the most challenging and yet I would never wish he have a child just like him because I know the toll it takes on me and our family.
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MommyMahung wrote:
I was not a dream child, but my kids, no matter what, are my dream children.
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That's such a sweet, thoughtful thing to think. Your lucky kids. 
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Having a child just like you is actually a blessing, because you know how that child's mind works and you have an easier time trying to guess what's wrong (particularly in the teen years). I find it fascinating to watch my daughter discover all the things I loved at JUST HER AGE. It's a bit weird, but joyful, too.
And, since she's quite dramatic (as I was, from a young age), it's a challenge to cope with her ups and downs...but a happy one. She's learning at home, working hard to improve her dance, music and writing skills, and comfortable in her own skin - partly because she is a performing artist and partly because (I think) she is loved for herself here at home and in her circle of friends. She's just like I was at her age, but in a much better position to cope with those early teen years!
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CrunchyMom wrote:
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Take hope, Lindsay! My fifth is six months old and is absolutely a dream baby. I did not think such easy babies existed! But after four fussy little ones (and #4 was by far the FUSSIEST!!), this one came along and has spoiled me forever.
I have two children that are VERY much like me, but different sides of me. My mother says that my oldest daughter reminds her of me as a child, but I see more of my own traits in my oldest son (who, ironically, is adopted ). He has been more difficult to parent so far because we clash because of our similarities, I think. He definitely knows how to push my buttons!
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Hmmm I never took "just you wait, you're going to have a child JUST LIKE YOU" to be a wish but rather a warning.. that of course your children will have your traits (and dh's )
Though dh asks me more than I ask him "what did you do to your mother?!?!?"
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I was an easy "starter" child for my parents. None of my boys are like me at all! G is a lot like my father, at least. That helps me navigate his energy, and hopefully point him in the right direction. Yeesh, it would be nice to have a good listener who is somewhat compliant for a change!
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