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jillian
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What is your definition of "Sunday Clothes" (or Mass clothes)?
I grew up that you dressed up for Mass especially on Sunday and nicely (i.e. business casual) if you go during the week. I try to encourage this in dd, we always go in skirts and nice tops or in dresses. If we have to go in pants, they are dress pants (or trouser cut denim so they are tailored and suitable to wear to an office) and all of these are modest.
I require DD (who just turned 3) to wear shorts or leggings under her skirts/dresses and to keep her skirts/dresses down and legs closed while sitting.
Are my goals for me and her doable? Should I relax a bit with my dress standards? We recently began attending a more traditional church (which I love despite the teeny parking lot and other parking issues lol) so others seem to have the same clothing standards so I don't feel so out of place.
So long ramble for a simple question, what is your definition for appropriate clothing for Mass?
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What you're ok with and what won't cause you to sin thinking about other people not meeting those standards.
We wear nice business casual, skirts for the girls on Sundays.. during the week.. jeans/pants are ok for everyone IF they're nice.. no holes in the knees  and with a nicer top.. not just a tee shirt.
and we get more dressed up than normal Sundays for Christmas and Easter.
BUT if we're traveling.. we usually end up very casual though most of the time the girls still have skirts.
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I think your expectations are very doable. We dressed very similarly when we lived in TX. Now that we are back in MN, we usually wears jeans, sweaters, snowboots, and big warm coats during the winter and summer are more casual as well. I would love to dress up more for mass, but it's just not realistic with our snow and prairie wind. I need to be able to walk through the snow if we get stuck on the way to mass.
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I think your choices are very do-able. We don't allow shorts (except my son during Summer and they're knee length still w/ dress shoes), no tennis shoes, no shirts with words or phrases (this again usu. goes for my son as that's what his play clothes are during the week). My daughter's do usu. wear dresses or skirts unless it's really cold which doesn't happen too often in N Tx. and then it's nice pants. However, I usu. wear the same black dressy pants w/ a nice top any time I go to Mass. Although I do sometimes dress even nicer but I've also been known to wear capris if it's 100+ and we're going on a Sat evening (no flip flops with them though).
I was always taught that we're going to meet and be in the presence of the King of all Kings and we certainly should present ourselves beyond our every day casual wear. Again, I think your choices are well within what I would consider Sunday worthy. Our former priest had many a homily on appropriate Sunday wear.
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Thank you! I was so pleased to see the following guidelines at the church we are new to for dress and proper behavior:
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Snippet specifically referring to the "dos and do nots":
What To Wear
We should wear to Mass what we would wear if a King invited us to his home for a feast. That is, we should wear our best. Our best should never draw attention to ourselves but give the utmost respect to the King (and His family) of whom we are special guests.
What Not To Wear *
1. Immodest or revealing clothing is never acceptable.
* For Women:
Any clothing that bares midriffs or cleavage.
Tight clothing meant to accentuate (to draw attention to) various body parts that God considers, and that we ought to consider, sacred.
Short skirts (above knee) or miniskirts
Shorts (capris are okay if they hit below the kneebut still discouraged)
Sleeveless tops (short sleeves are okay).
* For Men:
Shorts (yes, even in the summer months)
Tank tops.
2. Dirty clothes are never acceptable.
3. An unkept body is never acceptable (e.g., dirty hands or fingernails).
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winter: I wear nice slacks and a modest blouse.
Summer: A long dress almost to my ankles.
Hubby: Nice pants and shirt all seasons.
My 2 boys: Chinos and polo shirts in winter, chino shorts in summer.
My daughter: A dress in the summer and an outfit in the winter. She's 2.
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Our dress standards are similar. On Sunday we wear the best we have. Dh wears his suit and the girls and I wear dresses/skirts that are reserved just for Sunday so they are in the best shape of anything we have. During the week Dh wears what he would wear to work which is khakis, dress shirt and usually a sweater and the girls and I wear our everyday skirts/dresses which are in nice shape they just aren't our best. Oh and everything we wear is modest, of course.
This is one of the things I love about wearing skirts all the time...I am always dressed for Liturgy 
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I just wear whatever I have to wear. Only having one skirt which was slowly falling apart from being worn and washed all the time humbled me to the point that I do not care what people wear to Mass. I would have been mortified if someone had commented to me on my skirt, that was at the end full of holes and had mended patches etc. My only other choice was not to go. I was VERY happy to wear my new skirt on Christmas day - espec. as I was asked to take up the collection and everyone was looking at me. I still only have one skirt (new at the moment!)and I don't have any "best clothes" to wear and neither do my children - we just wear whatever we have that is nicest of the clean clothes. I think it's lovely if you want to get dressed up and can get dressed up - but I don't think it is a requirement that Jesus makes on us.
I would LOVE for the church to be full of dirty hands, torn jeans and shorts if it meant that the church was full of people longing for Jesus. But each family will have their own desires and goals for Mass attire, which is appropriate *in my opinion* as long as the family knows it is their own desires and goals and not something everyone else is held to.
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I was always to taught to wear your best. If your best is a suit and dress, then you wear that attire. If your best is jeans, then you wear jeans. As long as you are giving Jesus your personal best.
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