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Vanna
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I try very hard NOT to gossip. I am born into a family of professional gossipers and I have fought this trait within myself all my adult life.
Well, I was talking to a major gossiper, let myself get sucked into a conversation about someone else...and told a secret about this person. As soon as it was out of my mouth, I was horrified. I feel terrible.
I don't know what to do. I really don't. I feel like I should go to the person and let them know that I told their secret but oh, my she is going to be so mad at me.
This all sounds so juvenile but I am really upset at what I have done.
What would you do to remedy this situation? Is there an answer?
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Go to confession, confess it and ask the priest what to do! ;) (I've been there...)
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I second Lisa's suggestion. I think that you will receive great wisdom from your priest. I know that I have also been in that same situation, and I felt a lot better after confession.
As far as the person who was gossiped about, you might want to let him/her know what has happened. Better to come from you than someone else.
And your feelings are not juvenile! I remember feeling the same way. The best way to avoid it is to try and avoid or limit conversation with major gossipers (which can be hard if you are close to them). 
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Confession. Thank goodness for the gift of the Sacrament of Reconcilation. We all mess up.
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Carole N. wrote:
The best way to avoid it is to try and avoid or limit conversation with major gossipers (which can be hard if you are close to them).
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Ooo, yeah! This is the ONLY way I can do well at keeping my mouth shut. 
I'm so sorry, Vanna! I've been there, done that. It's a really really terrible feeling. It's so good for keeping one humble, isn't it?
 Hugs to you.
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Been there, done that...thank God for the gift of Confession.
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If it will get back to your friend, tell her first. Also tell the one you were gossiping with that you made a terrible mistake and ask her to keep the secret.
And, yes, confession.
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