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Has anyone read this or used this method? Just curious what you thought of it.
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I have...and we LOVE it here.
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Used it with ds at 4 years and need to get it out of the library again for dd--now 4!!!
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I may not use it exactly like the book and I probably use it too often. It works well with my almost 2-year-old, especially. My almost 5-year-old knows that once I start counting she had better comply or else. It saves on a lot of pointless and frustrating negotiation.
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It works great at my house. My dc know that when I start counting, I am serious. I love that there is no talking, no arguing, and no reliving the event once it's past. Thumbs up here.
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I have not read this book. What is the premise on which it is based? Do you count? What happens when you get to three? Just curious about it. 
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1 2 3 Magic does sound interesting -- I wonder if it would work around here .... lately we've had SUCH a spate of complete ignoring by the littles! What a hassle as first one does it than the other two follow right behind ....
I'm willing to try anything as this point!
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I read it once and really liked it. However, I was taken back once when I heard someone remark that this was really just giving your children 3 extra times NOT to listen to you. But it did serve us well for a little while. NOw I just try to go directly to the child and "help" them do what I told them to do after they didn't listen the first time. It takes more time and effort on my part though.  After this baby comes I may revisit this 1-2-3 idea! Maybe it will prevent me having to get off the couch with a nursling!! ROFL!!
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dawn2006 wrote:
| I read it once and really liked it. However, I was taken back once when I heard someone remark that this was really just giving your children 3 extra times NOT to listen to you. But it did serve us well for a little while. NOw I just try to go directly to the child and "help" them do what I told them to do after they didn't listen the first time. It takes more time and effort on my part though. After this baby comes I may revisit this 1-2-3 idea! Maybe it will prevent me having to get off the couch with a nursling!! ROFL!! |
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I had the same thoughts first time I read it too! But as I thought about it and used it found it was quicker to allow them 3 chances to do whatever on their own than piece together a "plan" for each instance of misbehavior or non-compliance with a request. By counting to 2 or 3 for some "magic" reason they do it. It does work...
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Thanks for the replies. I asked because I read the book and really liked the no talking, no arguing part. We have always counted here. My kids know that if they get to three there will be consequences. My problem is being consistent with what the consequence will be, or, as the author discusses, yelling at my kids in between counts. It seems much more controlled and peaceful to do it the way described in the book.
Yesterday was absolutely crazy around here. I think it was the weather - cool and rainy. The kids couldn't really play outside, which they are used to doing. I found myself counting all day! Hopefully today will be better!
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I don't look at it as giving them three chances to ignore me... I think of it as giving them two statements that I am unhappy and they need to stop. Instead of saying.. 'Stop! Why are you doing this? Haven't I told you..." I just say, "That's one" and then "That's two". I find that I don't get nearly as worked up and angry. And then, if I get to three, they know right away exactly what will happen... time out in their rooms for as many minutes as years old they are.
I think it's a very predictable and understandable system for the kids, and that's part of why it works so well.
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dawn2006 wrote:
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I've heard of this before too, but for me I see it as giving them the opportunity to make the right choices themselves so the timing allows them a little time to think about it...and then if it still doesn't happen then they get a time out here.
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