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monalisa
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Posted: April 13 2007 at 1:26am \| IP Logged

I would appreciate advice on this topic:
Our neighbors are *literally* pagans. They are unschooled, and their best friend family are also unschooling non-Christians in our neighborhood. Their kids want to be friends with my son. The moms wanna be friends with me. They are both attatchment parenting families who discipline just like we do. But seriously- they are prochoice and sometimes use inappropriate language in front of the kids, and as our kids get older they will DEFINITELY be teaching their kids different things than we will about dating, sex, etc. Not to mention the big bang theory- LOL! Most recently my 3 yo ds got in big trouble following the lead of one of their kids. I don't want them to think I'm a bigot or that I'm just another one of those clique-ish Christian moms, but it is becoming clear to me that they and their kids are, well, not the influence I want on my kids. I dearly like the 2 moms. I dearly hope they are liking Catholics/ Christianity better by knowing me. But... how do I gently rid my daily life of them, when we all live within 1 mile, use the same park, SHARE A FENCE, etc? and did I mention one of them is my midwife???
Anyone accidentally move in next to another hs family who happened to be the opposite of your family in many other ways? What did you do?

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Posted: April 13 2007 at 7:49am \| IP Logged

Remember tolerance and acceptance are two different things . Be very very careful as it is really easy to get sucked into the we need to be accepted and liked by all. The I'm bad for being Christian and stating when something is wrong or sinful . Muslims are going through alot of the same heavy persecution right now too .
I have been writing some articles about this on my blog . Regarding people of practicing great faith .Such as ghandi , Mother Teresa , Martin Luther King jr. , Padre Pio . None of those people practiced multi religions . They followed rules and morals etc. They had great tolerance but they in no way needed to be accpted by all . They knew the only one we need be accptable to is God .
I just went through all this with my best friend of 28 yrs . she became wiccan . I assume that is what you mean by pagan . Pagan can be any group that does not follow one God such as all of our ancestors . Mine were objibway or cree . Being pagan does not make people bad . We are all able to choose our own religion . That is where tolerance comes in . Jesus told us if people do not accept us to walk away and shake the dust from our sandals .
My girlfriend found wicca as a substitute for her alcolholism it became her addiction this is how she served satan . They in no way sit and dibliberatly worship satan . People who do are satanists not wiccans . Evil and demons yes she brought it into her life .Her demons are fear , rejection , abandonmnet etc.
My friend made no attempt to connect with others she went off on her own and got very caught up in how imporatnt she was and was going to help people etc. she had no spiritual direction from anyone it all came from her head and the part and focus of the wiccan read or creed she focused on was " to thy own self be true "
She hated when I told her she was in deep deep danger and will not speak to me . Equally I know I cannot be with her until she is well again and returns to AA .
I personally think wicca is a made up religion .

My sil is also wiccan she homeschools her two kids . We do see them and our kids play together . She knows Our views about same sex etc. she knows its part of our religous views if we were hindu or muslim etc. she studies and has a masters in religious studies so she is tolerant of us as we are of her . She is the one who organized our wedding for us made the reception afterwards etc.
So you see, I see a difference .My best friend I cannot be with her .It was like watching her die etc. It drained me spiritually to be with her .
My sil I can hang out with her and our two little boys hit it off etc. I do however visit at the same time .
So just be cautious never let your kids play alone with them unless it is in your home otherwise supervize them . Just a warning

Much Lov Rox

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Posted: April 13 2007 at 9:08am \| IP Logged

I have no advice but I will pray for you, that sounds very uncomfortable to me! I am sorry!

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Posted: April 13 2007 at 4:15pm \| IP Logged

I would definately be cautious - bad companions for our children and their influences are never, never a good thing.

I would start making novenas over this situation - God will find a way if you bring this special intention to constant prayer.

We had a situation where we had new neighbours that arrived a year ago and we could not let our children play with the child next door, we had to be very firm in this decision and the father went a bit mental over it, it worried us as they were new neighbours and we couldn't see the likelyhood of them moving but they did! - they put the put the house on the market and sold it in 3 days (when they bought it, the house had been on the market for 7months so this quick sale was a total shock) -they moved out the day before St Joseph's feast - we had been praying to him for answers....

We now have new neighbours, no children, which is what we prefer and pray for - we are starting to get very specific when we pray to St Joseph in regard to neighbours

as this house next door has had 9 different residents in our 12 years here.

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