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My mom finally told my brothers I was expecting a baby. My older brother surprised me by calling and congratulating me. He's been the one with the most negative comments.
My little brother is another story. He said we have enough kids, and "don't we want to go on vacations and give our kids more things?" I told him our children would rather have sibblings than those other things. He congratulated me and said bye.
Here's the kicker: He called back a second later and told me, "I hope you're considering me for the God-father."
I told him flat out NO and he hung up.  The nerve!!!
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Ruth, I come from a large, loud, outspoken family. Too many times we have said something hasty and have had hurt feelings...but it always heals in the end.
It's great news that your older brother came around and congratulated you. He's shown change of heart.
And your younger brother will probably, too. I don't know his personality, but perhaps the question of being the godfather was his way of wanting to welcome the child.
But, even if they don't come around, remember Christ in the Gospels said we will be persecuted, and it will be family members against family members, all for the love of Christ and the Church. And being open to life is one area where we have the biggest persecutions of our time.
So, prayers for peace for you. I know this is hard. Having family members not understand just hurts.
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Wow, great news on your big brother's end. Sorry to hear about your little brother's reaction though.
Ruth wrote:
My little brother is another story. He said we have enough kids, and "don't we want to go on vacations and give our kids more things?" I told him our children would rather have sibblings than those other things. He congratulated me and said bye.
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You could quote Pope John Paul II to him, "The greatest gift that a parent can give their child is another sibling." Or you could forward him this website.
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Jeanna that is a lovely quote and from a man who not only shepherded his worldwide flock for many decades but altered the history of the last century in an extrodinary way. In otherwords people are foolish to ignore his words of wisdom no matter what walk of life they come from.
Ruth, you are having such a hard time, ... are your brothers practising Catholics?
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aussieannie wrote:
Ruth, ... are your brothers practising Catholics? |
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They say they are. They both go to Mass, but both had a vasec. done recently, even though we told them it was against the Church's teachings. They won't listen. So, no, they're not practicing Catholics. We'll just keep praying for their conversion.
My mom told my oldest daughter todat she doesn't want us having anymore kids because of my health (Thyroid) My dd told her my health is fine  Why is she telling my kids these things. It's not for her to discuss this with them.  They frustrate me so much.
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I'm forwarding this to my mom and my brothers right now. Thanks, Jeanna.
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JennGM wrote:
It's great news that your older brother came around and congratulated you. He's shown change of heart.
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I wish you could realise how big this really is. He is against everything I stand for. I should probably get a job, we need to put the kids in school, no more children, blah, blah, blah.
It makes me so sad how they don't see the beauty of children. Lots of prayers for them.
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Ruth, if you don't mind me asking, what happens with your thyroid in pregnancy? It is just that I get told the same thing (but in much, much gentler tones) by some of my practitioners and my mum, who is a devout Catholic, who worries a little too, for this reason.
I suppose I just don't see my problem as 'life threatening' and I have learnt in the last few years how to manage it pregnancy and afterbirth effects - so if I fell pregnant I would know how to manage it better...
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Ruth - No advice but lots of hugs and prayers. We get coments like these from family too. It is so hard that they just can't be happy that we are doing God's will for our lives.
Glad to hear your ultarsound went well too 
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Ruth -- I understand -- altho we usually get it from dh's family rather than my siblings. When I was pregnant with JP (and just turned 40) my MIL, who I love dearly, worried about my health -- why, I'd never been sick a day in my life!
Anyway, know that you are in my prayers and all will work out ... sometimes it takes a few times before the siblings "get it" 
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aussieannie wrote:
Ruth, if you don't mind me asking, what happens with your thyroid in pregnancy? It is just that I get told the same thing (but in much, much gentler tones) by some of my practitioners and my mum, who is a devout Catholic, who worries a little too, for this reason.
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Annie, I'm not really sure what exactly happens, except that my blood tests show my levels are off and I need to have my medication re-adjusted. It really goes crazy after childbirth. I have a very large goider, which my dr. wants to remove, but only for cosmetic reasons, so I decided not to have it done. I just lab work done and so far, it's in the normal range, but I'll have to have it checked again around 5 months.
I am ALWAYS tired, whether I'm pregnant or not, so I guess this is why mom worries about me. I don't complain about it, but I do rest when I go visit her. I just realized that bothers her to see me tired. I don't get it. I always assumed every mom was tired all the time I think my mom does see as life-thretening, being an RN herself, everything to her seems dangerous.
I'm sorry I couldn't be much help. I'll be praying for you also.
Thank you, everyone, for your continued prayers. It has really helped a lot!
God bless you all.
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