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I am panicky and filled with doubt right now. I am seriously questioning why we are doing this. I do think it is a better education and blah, blah, blah. But when it comes right down to it, I want to spend time with my children and I am terrified of what they would be exposed to 'out there'. I want to be in charge of what they are learning. I don't want to let my babies go. These seem like awfully selfish reasons to me. I am not applying these statements to anyone else but me. We may be doing the right thing for the wrong reasons. Has anyone ever felt this way?
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It is our responsibility to educate our children. It is not our responsibility to send our children to a school not in our home 
Read the Catechism 2221-2231
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Protecting your children from a culture that is bad not only for their hearts but quite literally for their bodies(I'm referring to self destructive behaviors) is not selfish.
Giving your children the gift of childhood is not a selfish act, just because it also happens to be wonderful and what you want doesn't automatically make it selfish. Just a blessing!
I really hope that eventually our country will get it. That it's not a "religious" thing. No matter what your views on the here after, a culture that glorifies stuff over people, escapism over hard work, looks over intellect and ethics is not conducive to raising fully functioning adults. Of course... maybe that's the whole problem. 
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OK, so perhaps it is what is good and right for the whole family. I am truly convinced that this is the right thing to do, but I just enjoy it so much. Does that make any sense? I feel like I am doing it more for me than for them.
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Yesterday was a beautiful day...
My kids had a picnic at the creek, made chalk masterpieces in the driveway and then lounged on the front swing reading Redwall books.
I looked out the window and said "This is homeschooling!" That is not selfish, it is generous and good.
On the other hand, my dear 15 yr old son, who is in school, sat at dinner and told us what characteristic of each sibling would be mocked if they went to school. Hardly something anyone wanted to hear  , but it certainly affirms the decision to let these children grow and develop their personalities in a safe and loving place!
I think it is instinctual for us mothers to want to protect our kids. I think society has just brain-washed so many women into thinking that either it isn't our job, or it isn't possible to protect them so just give up.
God bless you for your "selfishness"! 
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What strikes me immediately is that it sounds like you've got a dose of Puritanism, if you don't mind me saying so !
It's *wonderful* if you are enjoying it so much -- that's such a great gift. Not selfish at all. Just thank God!
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No it is not selfish at all - as your desires are not conflicting with what is best for your children.
Jennifer, you are very blessed, I have been schooling for 7 years and in many ways they have been hard. One of the women's blogs talked about a special novena to the Child Jesus starting on the feast of St Andrew, last year which I did with a list of desperate intentions! I can say that they have all been answered in this new year and one was that I would love the schooling and really appreciate the blessings with it, so that I could do better with it. For if you really love something not just the idea of it, it makes life so much sweeter!
So lets be selfish together! 
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It isn't selfish to joyfully follow God's call. It is what we should hope for everyone!
When St Peter leapt from his boat to follow Jesus he gave us a wonderful example of joyous obedience. Let us all follow his example and dive in head first with glee!
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Now I am just a little embarassed because everyone seems to have the proper perspective on this. I would highlight and comment on the gems that everyone wrote, but I don't know how. So thank you everyone for responding. I may jot your words down in a happy spiral of some sort to read when people question us on our lifestyle.
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Jennifer,
I KNOW exactly what you mean -- for a while I had all my school age kids in a 2-day a week public-school/homeschool course. I HATED it -- the driving back and forth, the heavy influences, the reliance on public school rubrics, yada yada yada. My youngest daughter also hated it so I brought my son home also....I really missed having them with me all day; I missed watching them experience something. I hated seeing my youngest daugher (who is PAINFULLY shy) be sick to her stomach from having to go to different teachers, etc.
Yes, it was selfish that I brought Thomas home too. It IS selfish to want the best education for my kids, to place them in situations where they will grow and be nourished (my older two thrive in this public school type program). BUT, I also fimrly believe that this is what God would have me do -- too many things have fallen into place to allow me not to have to work outside the home, to be able to BE home with the kids, to be able to die to self enough to BE WITH MY KIDS all day....
Yes, it's a blessing. Yes, it's selfish. And yes, I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world!
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