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With my c-section scheduled for this Wednesday, do you think I'm being unrealistic to hope to attend mass on Ash Wednesday 2 weeks away? How long do you usually wait to return to mass after a c-section? Even if I feel great will it be too early to take the baby?
Weather is not a concern, as we are in FL... so no cold/snowy days here.
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I usually take a new baby when they're close to 2 weeks.. maybe like a day or two before 2 weeks at the earliest.
So I don't think that's too early to take the baby out.
As far as being too early for you. I haven't had a c-section.. but my main concerns would be how far you'd need to walk and if there were a lot of stairs or such. If you could be comfortable sitting for the duration on the available seating (our cry room has a comfy chair or two so there might be an option like that).
Some of that may well be more about how you in particular heal this particular time. And if you're honest with yourself, when the time comes you'll know if you should or not.
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I think you will have to play this one by ear. I bounced back from my C fairly well (first baby) and was able to get out for important things (Mass, groceries) within a week and a half, although I couldn't drive myself there. Your results may vary; a lot depends on your pain level and how well your little lassie is doing.
Ash Wed. Mass is usually packed - I'd advise going very early and staking out a spot...squish toward the center aisle and just make up your mind you'll need to slip out if baby gets fussy.
I think it could work as long as you feel up to it.
Remember, though, that you are not required to attend Ash Wed. Mass.
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It usually takes me 3 weeks to recover from a csection. My best recovery was with my 2nd. Getting up and down would be difficult for me at 2 weeks.
But, like everyone said, play it by ear and your body will tell you.
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wow - it takes me like 3-4 weeks to recover from a v. birth. (obviously, i am a wimp!!!)
since it isn't a HDO, i would suggest just waiting to see how you feel?
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I don't think you are being unrealistic. I was back at Mass 10 days after my c/s - mind you I was moving VERY, VERY slowly! 
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I'm like Laura...I tend to take several weeks to recover from a v. birth, too. But my biggest concern would be the baby's exposure to all those people in winter.
I never used to worry about stuff like that. Then I had a newborn with RSV. He narrowly escaped being hospitalized and I spent the entire second winter *also* doing everything to keep him away from RSV since he was more prone to catch it again (the risk disappears after age 2).
If you want to go and feel up to it, I would find a quiet corner in the back of a foyer or hallway where you can hear but not be surrounded by people.
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I was in school when I had my c-section and was back in class three weeks later. It wasn't ideal, but I managed it. But, I left the baby home.
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I had two c-sections, and you do have to play it by ear. I am more old-fashioned... just stayed home for the first month after each, and the first time we went to mass was to have the baby baptized at around 4 weeks.
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Bookswithtea wrote:
But my biggest concern would be the baby's exposure to all those people in winter.
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Oh, I absolutely agree with Books on this one! I would avoid shaking hands at the sign of peace. I also think if you wear your baby folks are generally less likely to touch him/her - at least that's what I've noticed.
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SeaStar wrote:
| I had two c-sections, and you do have to play it by ear. I am more old-fashioned... just stayed home for the first month after each, and the first time we went to mass was to have the baby baptized at around 4 weeks. |
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That's me, too, Melinda. When I push it, I regret it. I stay home a few Sundays, 3, maybe 4 if needed. But I'm a slower person to recover from surgery.
If you can go to Ash Wednesday, see if you can find a "shorter" mass and someone watch the baby. The weather is so cold and so many people, I wouldn't risk the germs for the baby.
I had a later summer baby, and then a winter baby, and I was slower to go out in the winter.
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I haven't had a c-section, but I've always waited six weeks before taking the baby anywhere, including Mass. At our church everybody wants to hold new babies and I always think it's too risky to take a "fresh" newborn.
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Not to be alarmist, but I heard on the news that they are expecting another widespread outbreak of H1N1 in February. I'd stay home. But, Jen, I am very sympathetic to the need to get out - cabin fever is no fun.
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I would just like to point out that Ash Wednesday is NOT a holy day of obligation. If you are able to go, that would be wonderful. If you are not up to it, or are concerned about the welfare of the new baby, then you could always make a spiritural communion.
Praying for you and your new baby.
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Everyone is so different and each pregnacy is different!
My 2nd son was a c-section. He was born on a Tuesday and we were at Mass on Sunday. But I was only 22 years old. My recoup wouldn't be that good anymore 
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I remember going back to mass within days of my first c-section. How dumb was that?!?! I was a shaky mess when I got home. As others have said, let your body tell you when it's right to go back. God will certainly understand. 
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I waited about 3-4 weeks with my first child before going back to mass. With my second, since we spent our days in the hospital with him and my oldest was with family, we went to mass twice a week in the hospital almost immediately. Both were c-sections. IMO you just need to see how things are when you get there. If it were me, I'd avoid any "big" masses when it was crowded and full of lots of kids. Perhaps there is a 6 am mass somwhere? 
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