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dolorsofmary
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Posted: April 27 2010 at 7:31am \| IP Logged

MY son will be 5 yrs old in August. He is an only child. At times he seems to appreciate things but most of the time its all about the newest toy. Mostly I am concerned about his attitude over what he does not have. Like if he gets new rain boots but not the matching umbrella for instance he will be happy over the new rain boots but will be miserable because he didn't get the matching umbrella (I don't buy umbrellas for little kids, the umbrellas inthe house are family umbrellas period. He seems to miss more what he does not have than what appreciating what he does have. I have him help around the house a little. Like help me with the laundry and he has to clean up his play area and room. We do say please and thank you alot and ask him to do the same. We do put him in the corner when he is naughty too. Any suggestions? Also I live and die by the budget. I can spend a lot of money on this little boy if I wish. My husband and I agree that we less high on the hog than our son does in terms of clothes (well 90% of htem now are from good will but still he LOVES them) where we wear the same old stuff all the time). Since he is homeschooled he gets tons of attention from us and we do lots of science experiments, whatever he wants in terms of learning but on the cheap too. IF we go to visit the grandparents (4 hours away and lots of time in a nursing home) we also take him to the local amusement park (very cheap can pay as little as $10 to ride the kiddie rides, no cover charge truly a rare thing now adays.) Still I think we are spoiling him. I feel that i should be more strict. We are weeding out the warnings. We are giving more and more right away punishment for right away disobedience. He says he cares for others but I don't know. He is only 4.5 yrs old. I want to bring him up right. Any ideas? Thanks!

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Posted: April 29 2010 at 12:54am \| IP Logged

I think his actions are typical of most 5yos and it seems that you are doing a fine job. Children are never spoiled by too much love, It's when love is replaced by things, that a child get's spoiled ;)When he's upset about something, be understanding, and when he is older, he will remember that more than if you gave in all the time.

5yos are so fun!

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