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I am curious... are your kids movie watchers? Do they like to go to the movies? Do they like to watch movies at home?
My dd likes movies, but my ds... no way, no how. He will watch science and nature dvds and a few TV programs like Martha Speaks or The Outdoorsman on PBS, but that is about it. He is 10.
The last time we tried to take him to the movies he melted down in the lobby. We managed to get him into the theater for about 10 minutes, and then my dh said, "Remind me never to try this again."  That was about three years ago, and we haven't.
I'm not complaining about this, since I hate all the movie previews and even the local cheap movie day for kids this summer here is showing all PG movies . Not going to the movies is very easy on the budget. 
Not buying or owning a lot of dvds- also very budget friendly
But I can't help wondering what the aversion is... and if there are other non-movie goers out there. Do you have one?
(My ds is definitely a "spirited child" and is very sensitive. He had a bad experience at a friend's house once when the mom put on a Lord of the Rings dvd that scared him. But, honestly, even before that he did not like to watch any movies.)
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Have you looked into a sensory intergration disorder or maybe he just has very sensitive hearing and the blaring noise in the theatre is too much? That would not explain at home movies though. Maybe just too much visual stimulation?
I do consider it odd, given how kids and adults are normally drawn to movies. However, I wonder how it will really affect him as he gets older. How will it limit him and are those results acceptable? If they aren't, then I would get him evaluated and see what can be done to help him. Have you looked into food sensitivities, yeast overgrowth etc? Those can cause weird symptoms.
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I'm not a movie watcher, mostly because of my hearing, I only hear about 30% and annoy everyone by asking, "What did he say?"  Have you had his hearing tested?
Does he prefer books? I do.
I'd guess you're more 'on the money' with his sensitivity. I remember when our ds was 5 and we took him to the movies to see Stuart Little, way too frightening (the scene in the park) on the big screen and the surround sound system, we didn't take him back to the big cinema for years! Though for him it was the cinema experience more than movies at home.
Sounds like he had definite taste in what he wants to watch and that's it, more of a non-fiction guy than a fiction viewer.
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My 11yr old is very sensitive. She likes "All Creatures Great and Small" and Jane Austen movies, but anything with intense excitement is not a possibility for her. She only likes the first part of "The Sound of Music" and leaves the room when the Nazi confrontation begins. You wouldn't think this from her personality. She is far from shy and timid and can be rather loud  . Her soul is tender and we must respect and protect that. This is the daughter who is convinced she will enter religious life.
I don't see this as a disorder at all. It is something to be protected.
eta: We never go to the cinema, because there are rarely movies worth the money. And I can't stand the noise and the ads!
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I don't like the movies because I cannot sit still for that long 
Even watching one at home. I need to get up and DO something, I have kid induced add
Also, I remember ds, about 4 or 5 years, I took him to those free summer kids movies at the cinema. The lights went down and he was extremely worried because he could not see the door In case we needed to get out. He learned about the lit exit signs that day.
I have to iced my 10 year old being extremely scared lately. Spiders, the dark, etc.
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Melinda, one of my twins (12) is very sensitive to movies and we really don't take him to them. It is difficult because as a family we do like to go to the movies occasionally. He has several special needs, but the movie thing I think is related to sensory processing. Also, weirdly, it's not just scary or loud scenes that bother him. Sometimes he will just freak out over what seems like an ordinary event. It's totally unpredictable.
I don't have any suggestions for dealing with this problem, other than to avoid movies. If we watch a movie at home as a family (we are watching "The Bible" on DVD this month), he just chooses to go to his room. I feel sort of sad about this, because I'd like him to be able to enjoy the time with the family, but he's OK with it.
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While it's not inherently a problem. There are lots of people who only read for information not for entertainment for instance. I would have his eyes and hearing checked just in case.
When my eyes first started shifting to needing glasses, it was screens that caused me the most problems.. giving me headaches long before I had any real difficulty with blurriness or such.
I often watched movies and *something else*.. drove my dad nuts that I'd read a book and watch a movie at the same time but handwork (sewing, crocheting) or drawing or coloring or such are nice too.
He might have a hard time processing audio information aside from a hearing problem.
I know to help keep the noise levels down that dh and I frequently put on the closed captions and "read" our movies. Sound level is so much friendlier and also "kid friendly" in that the kids are so much less likely to overhear the more adult shows we sometimes watch. and that might help with processing audio too.
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St. Ann wrote:
My 11yr old is very sensitive. She likes "All Creatures Great and Small" and Jane Austen movies, but anything with intense excitement is not a possibility for her. She only likes the first part of "The Sound of Music" and leaves the room when the Nazi confrontation begins. You wouldn't think this from her personality. She is far from shy and timid and can be rather loud . Her soul is tender and we must respect and protect that. This is the daughter who is convinced she will enter religious life.
I don't see this as a disorder at all. It is something to be protected.
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I think this best sums up my ds and movies. He is not shy or timid, but he is sensitive, and he can't bear to watch any type of conflict. A long time ago another homeschooling mom told me that there is a difference between reading about something in a book and seeing it happening in real life/on screen to real people. I think that is the case with d/s.
He likes to watch things like the MSB science dvds and nature and travel shows. He has no problem with things like Bill Nye, Steve Spangler, etc.
He has perfect hearing and vision- all tested in the past six months.
And, oddly, one of his favorite things to do is make movies- he hosts his own talk show with my dd as the camera/prop man. It is quite hilarious.
I was just curious to know if there were other children out there who also preferred not to watch movies, and now I know there are.
Honestly, I am not sorry he dislikes going to the movies. It has made me very aware of the dark side of these shows, even Disney movies in the last 20 years. The same with TV. I am glad to give the bulk of it a pass.
I recently read "How to Keep Your Kids Catholic", which was published in 1989. At that time research showed that by age 16 children had viewed over 16,000 on screen killings. I'm sure that number is even higher now.
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| At that time research showed that by age 16 children had viewed over 16,000 on screen killings. I'm sure that number is even higher now. |
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Truly disturbing! 
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My DS has never liked movies either. He used to be terrified of fireworks and movies when he was a toddler b/c of the noise. Now they don't bother him as much but they're def. not his favorite thing. He just told me a few weeks ago that he doesn't want to go to the movies anymore. And, he's only been maybe 10x in his whole life. I've often thought of the sensory thing b/c of the loud noises and it's dark and the fact that he *still* rubs a blankie.
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