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SaraP
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Posted: Dec 02 2011 at 7:12pm \| IP Logged

How have you taught your children (middle childhood aged - say 10 and up) to handle movies and video games at friends' houses? Are they supposed to check in with you? Do you check in with parents? Something else?

This is an area where my own (generally wonderful) parents really dropped the ball and I saw way too much, way too young.

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Kathryn
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Posted: Dec 02 2011 at 7:43pm \| IP Logged

My kids know they are only **supposed** to watch rated G movies and rated E video games. If it's a rated PG movie, they are supposed to call me first. It's mentioned almost every.single.time they go to someone else's home (which really isn't that often). It's also mentioned when they want to watch something here at home outside rated G. They don't go to many people's homes that allow children to watch other things outside of these parameters but they have been there and I have asked the parents to keep those rules in place. Have they ever watched or played outside those guidelines? I guess I don't *really* know. In talking about the restrictions, I also talk about trusting that they are following our guidelines and why I don't want them exposed to things that are made for older children and adults. I hope it's working...probably more so for DD 12 then DS 11 but that's more with personality and temperment and who's pushing the limits.

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Posted: Dec 03 2011 at 1:31am \| IP Logged

We have been very blessed in that all of our friends have very similar standards to us. A few movies they allow and we don't and vice versa. All children are meant to ring and check in and ask permission, having said that, we are generally courteous and respectful and know each others standards so parents have checked prior to sleep over.

However recently ds rang and asked, we denied. This was hard as child in other family was allowed, we hung up believing he had accepted. Unknown to the mother, her son and ours, when unsupervised watched up in his room on laptop. Our son did confess later and whilst we praised for honesty he consequence is he will not be allowed to sleep over again for a long time. A lesson learnt.

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