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LucyP
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Our 2 yo DD has been out of nappies for about 5-6 weeks now, and the "access opportunities" are being explored persistantly. As in, constantly. If she isn't actually eating, at that moment putting lego together or similar, she will be busy in an undesirable way. It is so hard to stop her. At first I thought she was disturbed to discover a new fact about her anatomy - she was being very thorough about showing me and crying out that she had found something, and I explained several times it was supposed to be there, was made by God, wasn't a "poorly" and all girls have one and it is something special that isn't to be played with, and then we have switched to diversion and saying no, mama Mary won't be happy to see her little girl doing that (as she has a big love for Mary and wants to be like her) or that those parts aren't for public times - but she won't stop and is very "bold" about it in a way that is embarrassing our very modest son and also perturbing my dh. Is this is a stage most girls go through? - our DS did something similar at a similar stage but not in the same obsessive and persistant way. As she is so young I'm not sure what to do/say to point out it is wrong but that her body is perfect and lovely. Her godmother is due to mind her soon, and I am worried she will think our daughter is teaching her daughter bad ways  She is so beautiful and sweet but this behaviour is getting so tiring and unpleasant, and if I didn't know she had barely been out of my sight would have alarm bells ringing because of the constancy and thoroughness of it.
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My daughter went through that too. I remember reading in a parenting magazine after having my first that it is very common at that age for children to explore. I would use distraction as a means of getting her attention onto something else. It will pass 
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She will grow out of it, but it could be a while. Just keep gentle reminders and buy lots of bodysuits/onesies to make it harder to do. 
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Dungarees.....
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I'm not sure we can go with dungarees or onesies, as she needs to be able to have reasonably quick access for pottying herself.
DH and I have been thinking about "bloomers" for her though to make access that much harder.
Distraction doesn't work. She just keeps on, even with us removing her hands or giving her something else to do. When she wants to do it, the only thing is to sit and hold her hands.
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Maybe try the bloomers. Then maybe try to ignore it, or focus less on it for a while, at least at home. I know my little ones always have a tendency to be more persistent about an activity when I was constantly trying to get them to stop.
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I don't have any new or different ideas, although I wish I did since we're dealing with the same issue here and boy, is it disconcerting. our DD may not be as persistent as yours, but she sometimes ... "explores" with other objects/textures, which can really be alarming. my DH's biggest fear is that she's going to insert something and hurt herself ...
anyway, I just wanted you to know you're not alone and that I'm keeping you and your DD in prayer. hang in there!
ETA a note of gratefulness that there's somewhere to go where I don't feel so alone with this!
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Lucy, I think I would go with the dungarees / sleepsuit for a while even though it makes pottying harder, to help her get out of the habit.
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We went through this with my oldest son(who grew out of it, by the way), but I talked to a family counselor about it. He said that while it is natural for kids to do this, it is really important in today's world that they not do this in public. Predators will often fixate on a child that they notice doing this in public. This was super scary to me, but I am also glad he said something.
We did not address this as "not nice" or bad in some way. We just talked about the difference between public and private. We also temporarily changed from using pants with elastic, to zips and buttons which were more form fitting.
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