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Up til now I have fed her and, if she is still awake, put her in her crib. Sometimes she protests but often not at all. She's usually a quick, business-like feeder as well.
But now, she gets really upset and won't settle. What to do? She is clingy during the day as well, which is a first as well. So I am assuming we have a little developmental thing going on.
I'm happy to consider options from both the CIO side and non-CIO ers. If you suggest CIO could you spell it out in steps for me, please? That would be appropriate for a 14mo?
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 What does CIO mean, Pam?
I was just thinking she was going through something developmental. My 9 month old is crawling and standing and starting to really move and explore...which means she's also nursing every 5 minutes for reassurance.
Perhaps just re-working a very comforting evening routine with stories and lovies. Maybe you could rock her for an extra amount of time in her room while it's dark or dimly lit and quiet with no distractions. Another thought - Is she taking a late afternoon nap that might be interfering with her normal bedtime hour? Could she need a little less afternoon nap or more evening play time?
Or...(and I'm assuming when you say feed you are nursing her and then putting her to bed - I could be wrong) could she be really full from her dinner of solid food and not interested in nursing so much before bed because she's so full? Maybe pushing back her evening nursing routine, or sliding her solid dinner forward a little will allow her tummy to empty a little.
Just thinking out loud here...without knowing what "CIO" means. I'm so technology slang illiterate!
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CIO = Cry It Out?
I know what you mean Jenn, sometimes I stare at the screen for 5 mins trying to figure out what an acronymn means. 
ANywys, Pam:
If she were my baby I would try and think of what happened recently that could make her feel unsure, anxious, rejected, etc -- maybe she could even be picking up on someone else in the family's emotions/struggles and that could be making her unsettled.
If I thought some incident or stuff going on could be making her unhappy, I'd just TALK to her about it alot -- throughout her daytime clingyness and upset nighttime. (I'm big into talking to my babies like they can understand everything  ) " This is upsetting, you don't want me to leave you . . . I see that you seem unhappy, (or angry, or sad, or whatever) I am here with you . . . But you need to sleep, you will feel better in the morning , etc, etc," Do you get the idea?
I personally would do crying-it-out with my child -- lots of rocking and talking about "It will be okay, Jesus will be with you and your Angel, Mommy's close by, etc, etc" then laying her down and leaving. If it's so traumatic for her and she's screaming and screaming with that certain "tone" -- you know, the serious one, the I'm-not-kidding one?  -- then I would go back in after five min, pat her, sing, smooth her hair, (MAYBE pick her up but probably not), then leave. And I'd try to do this as long as it took. (I'm not really good about sticking it out, but I do try )
Oh, and I might try Rescue Remedy Sleep (found at Whole Foods or Vitamin Shoppe) and even Holy Water if it goes on and on and gets hysterical. I pray to the Angel of the child too to help them sleep.
(Can you tell my kids have sleeping problems?? )
Also, sometimes a calcium/magnesium deficiency can make sleeping hard, and it also can make one weepy and/or crabby. (When I'm restless at night I take 3-4 calciums and it usually really helps me sleep soundly!) Empty a couple capsules into yogurt (or even maple syrup -- that's how my toddler takes it) and give it to her.
Also, the homeopathic remedy Calcerea Phosphorica has do with helping Calcium absorption -- you could read the sypmtoms of that and see if it describes your daughter at all.
Sorry, I just wrote all that and then I feel like I didn't really say anything that helpful! Hope something helps!
Good luck!
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My 14m old little guy has started to do the same thing. When I put him down for a nap or sleep he clings to me and screams as though the thought of bed is terrifying. It is so distressing. I rock him for a long time. I let him cry for a little while, then rock him again. He has gone from 2 naps a day (2 weeks ago) to none on some days. Today he cried for 7 minutes and then fell asleep - but only for 40 minutes.
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