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Jess
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Posted: Nov 11 2008 at 9:14pm \| IP Logged

...got totally fixated on something? My 20 mo old dd is completely addicted to signing time. She wants to watch it all day. I won't let her of course. I try to limit her watching to 1 or 2 times a day. But she asks all day and signs the ones she wants and cries and asks more. If she isn't watching one she wants to be listening to the cd's. I know it could be worse and that she really has learned a ton from them, but it is driving me crazy! She seems to really fixate on things. Today she walked around all day asking for signing time and if I said no then she wanted to nurse. I have been trying to keep her busy doing other things like puzzles or books or other toys, but she won't hardly do anything else. We have always had trouble with her eating so she mostly nurses and has really upped her nursing lately and the asking for the signing times has increased lately too. I think she is getting a molar so that may be part of it. But literally all she wants to do is nurse and watch signing time. all. day. long.
Has anyone else ever had a child that is so fixated like this?

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Posted: Nov 12 2008 at 5:29am \| IP Logged

I had one like that. I actually let her watch the program (Veggie Tales), and it worked itself out in a few days. I think that the saturation worked

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Posted: Nov 12 2008 at 8:01am \| IP Logged

My guess is that she is catching a virus, or going through a developmental boost. That's usually what it turns out to be in my house when a child is acting like that.

If it turns out to be longer-term you could look at what's going on in your lives right now and see if there are any things that would make the little one look for comfort and sameness -- any new routines, changes in life, etc.

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Posted: Nov 13 2008 at 9:59am \| IP Logged

It could also be a Montessori-type period of wanting to work - my kids will become enraptured with farm animals or pegboard or whatnot and play without tiring until they are "done" and satisfied.

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Posted: Nov 14 2008 at 10:15am \| IP Logged

I was thinking along the same lines as Willa, Jess. I really do think this will pass.

Check the toy bins and shelves for toys that may have gotten shoved to the back (or do you rotate toys seasonally? I do) Anyway, try to set out a few baskets of books and toys that might have been cast aside a bit, but would feel new and continue to offer those things that reassure her.

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Posted: Nov 17 2008 at 3:17pm \| IP Logged

My 17 month old cannot switch gears either and it turns to excessive crying until we finally succeed in distraction. If he sees the cd player from his high chair he is done eating and cries for music. . .and doesn't stop unless we really work at a distraction. And all he wants to do also is nurse.

She may just be bored, even though it sounds like you're doing a good job at trying to keep her busy.

I've had kids get addicted to things over the years and it is kind of freaky. I usually make it disappear at that point either permanently or forever. That is, if I feel like it has just gotten out of control.

It really does sound normal and typical of the age.

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