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Posted: Sept 10 2008 at 6:41pm | IP Logged Quote teachingmyown

My ds10 wets the bed every night. We started using an alarm about a month or so ago. At first, it seemed to be working, but really he was so stressed about setting off the alarm, that he wasn't getting into a deep sleep so he didn't wet himself.

Next he stopped putting it on. Or would take it off during the night, saying it was uncomfortable. The last week or two, he has been soaking himself even though the alarm goes off.

The poor kid is exhausted and getting discouraged. I find myself getting frustrated, especially when he argues with me about things like getting a drink after dinner.

I had said no more pull-ups when we started using the alarm. I am about ready to give up and just let him have his pull-ups back.

Has anyone had luck with any other strategies? I came across some site that has a homeopathic remedy called Be-Dry. It is really expensive.

I am at my wits end. Between two in cloth diapers, one of whom is supposed to be potty training and likes to take of her cloth diapers when she poops, and this child with the soaked clothes and linens every day, I feel like I am up to my elbows in bodily fluids!

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Posted: Sept 10 2008 at 6:52pm | IP Logged Quote Anne

Our Pediatrition told me that the reason for soaking at night is a hormone that has not quite matured. The body over produces urine instead of slowing down during sleep. He said Usually puberty will cause this hormone to mature. In the meantime pull-ups may be your best bet. The child really has no control over this.

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Posted: Sept 10 2008 at 7:25pm | IP Logged Quote JodieLyn

yeah I've understood it like Anne says.. give him the pull ups and make sure he knows how to launder his own pullups (assuming they're cloth since you use cloth diapers) and linens and make his bed and let it fall to him to deal with.. not as punishment but just as.. taking charge of his ownself and things.

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Posted: Sept 10 2008 at 10:10pm | IP Logged Quote mom2mpr

FWIW
My ds(10 years)and I have just started "the great experiment." We are on day 3 of 7 days. Here is what we decided to do.
--Triple sheet his bed(with waterproof sheets too!). --Put a laundry basket in his room to collect wet sheets--if needed.
--Wear underwear to sleep.
--ds to bring basket with wet stuff to washer in am
The first night I was amazed, his bed wasn't all that wet--I put the sheets in the washer for him in the am so I could evaluate. At night he took care of his sheets by himself and went to the bathroom.
The second night was his first dry night in his entire life!! I couldn't believe it!!
Last night, not as successful. Pretty wet.
In a few nights we will evaluate whether we go back to Goodnights and relax, or continue on.
I have not been saying anything about liquids before bed--or even keeping an eye on them. We are going WAY low key here.   
I was doing this experiment before investing in an alarm for a few reasons-the expense and I was VERY afraid of them as a kid. I thought I would get electrocuted .
Good Luck. It is hard, and there truly isn't much to do except let them grow out of it. I just figured I'd try this to see if ds could learn to wake up to go to the bathroom.
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Posted: Sept 10 2008 at 10:38pm | IP Logged Quote Michaela

My 8yo ds wets the bed. I don't expect it to stop until he is about 12. If it does, great, but no pressure. He is very ashamed, but I try to reassure him and help him especially like this past weekend when his cousin spent the night. (No one wants to urinate all over themself, and especially face the humiliation of someone outside the family finding out.)

Both DH and I were bed wetters (DH won't admit it, but I had a nice conversation with his mother. ) and that increases the likelihood of our children also wetting the bed.

This article on bedwetting says that 5% of 10 year olds wet the bed and most kids who wet the bed have a relative who also wet the bed.

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Posted: Sept 11 2008 at 12:42pm | IP Logged Quote ALmom

We have noticed a few things that aggravate our almost 9 yo troubles - excess sugar and going to bed too late. But even when we do everything "right", we do have trouble. We do have a member of the family that had this trouble and I remember the trauma - the trauma is the thing I don't want to have. I am very low key. The child takes care of his own sheets,(but so does everyone else in the family when their sheets need changing from dirt or whatever)etc., but the 5 yo who shares a room wants to trade roommates (smell - but thankfully he has not voiced this to the brother) and we are putting off the whole deal and keeping a radar open to nip in the bud, any teasing or taunting type comments from family members. We don't do spend the nights so that doesn't pose any problems.

Watching this thread with interest for any pointers.

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