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I know that there are some on here...
My boys are 15mos old (13 1/2 adjusted). They don't talk. Really. Mamamamamamama is about it, and its not so much a "hi mom" kind of mama, just a sound they make from time to time... 
They are pulling to stand and hold onto the furniture, but they don't walk. They will, on occasion, let go, but not make any effort to walk. They crawled on time, and do it FASSSTTT.
They do alot of the manual things that they are supposed to do, but seriously, they don't talk. They babble to each other...but for the rest, its screaming...or silence. They don't point to things they want...they reach for them and screech. I don't know what to think. They've been very healthy, very few colds, even, much less anything more serious (no ear infections, etc).
David is teething BIG TIME right now. But John isn't really, that I can tell. I'm just not sure what to think. My middle dd had a serious speech delay as a result of oversized tonsils and adenoids, but her "indicators" were completely different from these two guys. And being twins, and preemies, I'm not sure when/whether to be more concerned...I just don't KNOW.
I'm so tired anyway, and now I'm worrying about the boys. We don't have any walk behind toys, since we didn't have the space in our old house, and now we're here, and have the space, but don't have the money to spend on toys. Shoot, its all going to gas these days (and thank goodness DH gets paid on Friday). Plus, the girls never needed them, so I never had to buy them before...
Do any of you have any words of btdt wisdom? Or just prayers? Please?
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Rachel, I don't have twins, but Lydia was born a week before your boys and she doesn't talk. She screeches and grunts, but doesn't have any words.
I'm not worried, (although just tonight my parents started in on me and how she should talk and I should withhold things from her until she does . . . whatever!)
My oldest talked early, my middle boy didn't really talk until he was over 2. He I worried about . . . but he is 6 now and talks just fine.
As far as walking, Lydia started last month to walk - and she wasn't a preemie. Once she caught on, she hasn't crawled since. Once again, Colin walked early (9 months) and Nate walked late (15 months)
I've never used a walker-type toy. Lydia did like pushing the laundry basket around for a while, and it helped steady her better when it was full of laundry. 
I'm sure your boys are fine and on their own schedule! I'll include you in my prayers!
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Rachel,
Relax. God does so many things with our babies in His/their own time. I've found that each child is so very different ... tracks completely differently from the others (and that's just in my house ... when you add all the other kids of similar ages ... wow!)
Often younger siblings will be slower to walk or talk because the others are doing for them. I don't have twins but my siblings and I were all a year apart and my Thomas and Maggie are "Irish twins". And we all did this too. I remember my older sister (the first) went to Kindergarten and the teacher told mom that she was behind and slower than all the others and probably had some kind of mental deficiency ... this is the sister who gradauated top of her class, was in NHS, etc and a National Merit Scholar.
As far as walking toys ... table tops, cabinets, boxes to push around work great (and the kids usually have more fun with those anyway).
Hope that helps.
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My twins are now 3 and they walked and talked later then their older sisters. The walked at around 15 mos (climbed onto the top bunk at 9 mos ). They used twinspeak exclusively for about 2 years, drove me crazy. My older 2 could understand their language, so they translated (still do sometimes).
I personally made the conscious decision that I did not have time/energy to waste on worrying, so I just let nature take its course.
If they are not walking or talking by 18-20 mos, then maybe call the early intervention in your area for an evaluation.
Angi
PS - too bad you live so far away, I have tons of walk behind toys I could give you!
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My children didn't start walking until 13-16 months and they were all late talkers - age 2. You would never no it now with all the running and talking around here.
Keep an eye on things and look into early intervention through your county if your mommy gut tells you. In my state, all of the early intervention is free from 0-3 yrs. The therapists come to the house for evaluations and therapy. All of this is paid through our taxes. I would imagine your state would be similar.
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Praying!
Not a twin mom, but a former speech-language pathologist. I would not be worried yet.
BUT, I bet you could get a free eval and ease your mind - as premies it's often suggested to be in the early intervention "system" to make sure everything IS going OK.
Here is a link for one in Oklahoma - I don't know if it's your county but I bet you can find yours through the links there.
Okla. Early Intervention
I've got to get going, but if you'd like me to I can try to dig up links on how to enhance language development in the birth-3 set. It's easy stuff (a certain way of talking, mostly).
But I warn you, I talk this way with all of my kids (just naturally, after so much training), and now they all never. stop. talking.
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My boys did not walk early - one at 13m and one at 15m. They had their own "twin language" for a while before they talked.
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yeah what everyone else has said.. and the normal range for walking is 9-18 months.. even without adjusting their age they've still got a good bit of time. One of mine did that standing without trying to walk for a while before walking. So it sounds like they'll be getting it soon. 
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BTW- you do not want the twins to walk and talk anytime soon - once they start, they never stop
Those were the 2 skills I hoped would be just a little delayed 
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Rachel, before you consider evaluation, do some research on the net about the downsides of this? There is a huge push right now for early intervention and labeling, and its not always a good thing. Try reading James Macdonald's Play to Talk and his web site for ideas on how to encourage language (his entire program, Communicating Partners, is based on the idea that parents can help more than a once a week therapy appt). Also, read up on Thomas Sowell's book The Einstein Syndrome. Even if your children don't match the parameters, there is a lot there on the downsides of early intervention.
I have a child who was 3 in April. He had less than 50 words at that age (late by all normal parameters). He's got hundreds now, just 3 months later. All of mine have been late talkers. They don't have any problems now but I am sure my ds would have been labeled had I allowed it (very thankful for our fam. practice doc. who encouraged me to wait it out...she was going against the tide in that suggestion).
Also, I have a friend with 3 yr old twin girls. One talked early and one didn't talk much till she was 2 1/2. Both are doing fine now.
Hang in there and try not to worry?
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My twins were born at 35 weeks and walked around 15 or 16 months.
They were late with speech also. I had read this is because a mother of twins speaks to them the same amount as she does to just one baby, meaning they get about half of the usual verbal stimulation. I told myself that if they weren't caught up by 2 I would check it out. They were fine by then.
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Thank you ladies. It was just one of those worries..you know, too tired to sleep, and yet awake enough to think about all sorts of things...
I know they all do things differently. And since they "do" babble a bit, I'm not as worried...
Thanks for the reassurances. I'm going to hold off for a while. I don't see any other reasons to be concerned at this point...so I'll hold off for a bit...
And yes. My dds do not. shut. up. Ever. Even. In. Their. Sleep.
SIGH
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