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Did you name yours before they were born? Did you wait to find out the s*x but still have a final choice for each possibility?
We found out the s*x with #1 but not with #2, and in both cases, I had a very good idea beforehand what we would name our sons ("I" because my husband is very agreeable to my ideas here, I guess he sees it as more my thing) but we didn't make our final decision until quite a number of hours after they'd been born.
I thought I couldn't name a baby till I'd "met" him or her. But the sonogram pictures we have this time are so much better. The doctor turned the 4D on for a moment and we took home four face pictures of our new baby whom the dr. was 95% certain is a girl. I feel like I can actually say, "No, she doesn't look like a ____" and I've started to think she might look like a couple of names that were on the much longer list than we had mostly narrowed it down to. Suddenly it seems appealing to start saying "After [firstname middlename] is born..." My bigger concern now is having too much time to change my mind after calling her one name for a while.
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We've usually decided before hand, but sometimes just barely. With our first we didn't know the sex, so we came up with one of each. The girl's name was decided while I was in labor in the hospital, though. It had really been an annoying fiasco because every time I thought we had a girl's name settled my husband would get tired of it after a few days or a week and we would be back at the drawing board.
With the second, I was going to refuse to even discuss until the third trimester because I didn't want the aggravation. But we found out it was a girl at 20 weeks, and a week later we actually came up with a name that my husband stuck with. We didn't tell anyone until the last few weeks, though, and then we only told grandparents. That gave us time to change our minds if we wanted and kept anyone from buying anything monogrammed. It also prevents unwanted criticism (people tend to be nicer after the baby is born).
With this one, we found out the sex again at 20 weeks. I have had two ultrasounds since then that confirm a girl (plus my last two ultrasounds were done by a maternal-fetal medicine specialist so I always have trusted his interpretation). She was Genevieve (Ginny) for about two months, but husband tired of the name. Two weeks ago we decided on a first name he seems to be at peace with but we are having a hard time coming up with a middle name that flows well and that we both like.
If you do decide on a name, you might want to wait until the last month or so to share it with the kids. It would probably be more confusing for your younger one if you switch the name after birth than it would be for the baby.
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I am pretty sure I am in a severe minority...but we don't call the baby by a name before they are born. I always think it is a little weird, but that is just me. We have a few names narrowed down, but none of my kids were named right away. It wasn't until we had to go sign the paperwork for the BC that we made a final decision each time. I guess we do need to "meet" them first. 
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With this baby, yes we have named her. Mainly because we have had alot of tests and we are asking folks to pray to her saints for health and healing of her little heart. Otherwise, with past babies, like my last, what a fiasco! I could not decide on a name, the hospital made me name him, we changed his name legally, somehow it all got mixed up and when he died he had a different name on his birth cert, Baptismal cert, and his death certificate  I will never live down that fiasco, my family and dh still think it ridiculous ( I do too, but I don;t let on  )
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chicken lady wrote:
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Well, see, this makes perfect sense, and I would probably do that same thing in this type of situation.
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we always have a name ready to go, but I feel I know my babies even before birth. It seems even while pregnant they display their personalities!
We talk names until we know the sex, from that time on we call them by name.
I'd prefer to not know the sex, but dh can't wait to find out! 
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We named our first because, like Molly's situation, he had a birth defect/medical issue and we had so many praying for us. Then we liked his having a name so much that we named our second in utero as well. We'll probably keep it up, though I wouldn't do an ultrasound for finding sex alone (we only do them because our first had a birth defect).
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We had boy and girl names for ds because we didn't find out he was a boy ahead of time. When dd was on the way, we did some testing and I really wanted to find out if she was a girl or boy, so we did. Problem solved - we used the name we'd picked almost six years before.
We didn't reveal the names before birth, because we figured our families would try to argue us out of them, particularly dd's (it's French). My friend (dd's godmommy) nicknamed her "Xena, Warrior Princess" because she was so active in utero; that's what we called her until she was born.
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We had three boy names picked out before my son was born, but we didn't finalize his name until he was born.
With my daughter I didn't want to find out her gender until she was born, and my husband wanted to know. We were at a stalemate until I had an unexpected ultrasound my husband wasn't able to attend. When the doctor decided to do the whole screening ultrasound at that time, I decided I'd better give in on the gender thing because he was going to miss the ultrasound itself. We had a terrible time choosing her name, but we had two girl names (same first name, different middle names) when she was born. I don't know what we would have done if she was a he. 
I sure wouldn't mind naming another one, though! We keep hoping!
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one name of each since we never find out beforehand.. but the name is picked before the birth.. and no regrets on that.
And most are very very fitting. I guess we don't have to rely on our own knowledge totally
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My first was named before his birth. I didn't know I was pregnant until I was 28 weeks along, and we decided his name within a few days after finding out.
We had a few names in the running for my 2nd, but didn't choose a name until after his birth. I can't imagine calling him Theodore now, even though I loved it while pregnant.
I was set on Lydia for a long time (decided on it during my 2nd pregnancy), but didn't finalize her middle name until her birth. It was a toss up between 2 different names, but I'm glad I went with the one I did. I gave her the middle name of Jane for my sister -- but just found out it also my MIL's middle name and that she is tickled pink thinking we named Lydia for her. (No, I don't know why my DH never mentioned it during our hundreds of name conversations?)
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We always had a boy's name and girl's name picked out before the due date.
Even today I have a list of unused names I could pick from. 
None of the names changed at the last minute either, unless you count the baby. Annalice Claire (after her great grandmother), we planned to call her Anna for short then, holding that little pink bundle in my arms, she instantly became "Annie".
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We always had a name for either possibility, but didn't always carry over the unused option to the next pregnancy. With the 3rd child, who is the 3rd dd in a row, we had a name chosen before birth, and for the first 36 hours we called her by that name. Somehow it just didn't seem like someone with that name was in the room, though. So, we went back to the drawing board and came up with a more suitable choice that continues to seem just right.
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#1 and #2 we had names picked out before delivery. #3 we had a name picked out, then one night, about 2 weeks to go, I told dh that I didn't think it was the right name. He didn't either. So I asked what name he thought, and it was the same I was thinking, Peter. He asked me the middle, and I said Francis, and it was the same he had been thinking. That sealed it. #4 got the name we HAD thought of first for #3, and it fits him perfectly. #5, we couldn't decide, so when he was born, I said each name. It seemed that he grimaced with the one and smiled with the other, so we named him Paul. #6 we had set before delivery. So...I guess you could say, it seems like they let us know, somehow, that a name was right or not.
For the babies that I had that miscarried, I prayed for God to give me their names, and, now I didn't hear Him like Moses, but I sure got a strong sense of what their names are. Very strong. And not names I would have been likely to think of or pick out. And more beautiful.
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We pick names before the 20 week sonogram. We always find out - and the sonogram day is our naming day. Now we have to have all our kids involved and they have to agree with the names!!
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We named every baby before birth except the last one. We just couldn't agree on a name, it was very unusual for me who likes to know the name ahead of time so I know who I'm carrying. My last birth was my first homebirth, my dh was a little reluctant to go that route, but I convinced him the midwife would take care of everything. Labor went so fast that the midwife missed the birth and dh had to play midwife. Since he delivered her, I let him choose the name! The other night as he was walking her to sleep I overheard him whisper to her, "Daddy named you, precious girl."
I guess that's why we couldn't think of a name, it was meant to be something special for Daddy and his girl.
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We have mostly had 2 or 3 choices ahead of time, but never really finalize until they are born....but we DO have an idea of what name we're leaning toward. We don't call the baby by name until they're born.
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Okay - wait - I am confused now . Which did you mean - having names picked out, or calling the baby in utero BY the name?
If you don't know if it is a boy or a girl, do you refer to the baby as "John or Mary" each time?
We usually have a nickname for the baby though...."peanut," "twink"...and dh called ds "Jackie Chan" cause he was very very active .
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Maddie wrote:
"Daddy named you, precious girl."
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Oh, this is making me cry...
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chicken lady wrote:
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Well, see, this makes perfect sense, and I would probably do that same thing in this type of situation.
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Yes, Literally three of our five kids are "miracles" and we have implored people to pray to their saints intercessions for months before their birth. I went in a wheelchair to Blessed Gianna's Relics and was blessed with them when a travelling Priest came to town with them, when pregnant with maria gianna.
our Thomas Bonaventure Gerard is named because 1. he had a twin that died, and Thomas means twin, 2. all of the younger Diocescan priests prayed to st gerard for him. 3. Bonaventure because st bonaventure ws originally named John as an infant, but almost died, and so was renamed Bonaventure or "good fortune" because it was a miracle that he lived!!
and so on, with each of the kids names.
I like to think that when our babies come out, they "recognize" their name when we say it, because they have been called by name for so very long!
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