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SherryCurp
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Posted: Jan 14 2008 at 1:17pm | IP Logged Quote SherryCurp
I need some advice for how to overcome what has become an entrenched habit of complaining in my 8yo dd. Whatever the origins (and I know I am at least partly culpable for this), we need to find a way to combat this. It makes family game-playing very unpleasant, as any time she is not obviously winning her attitude spoils the fun. Her younger sisters need a better example, too.

At this point, advice on how to do it right from the beginning won't help; I need some help with fostering a turnaround and overcoming a bad habit.

Prayers for this intention are most welcome, too!

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Posted: Jan 14 2008 at 7:32pm | IP Logged Quote Lori B
We had to deal with this attitude in our son when he was around 6yo. We made only two firm rules (and stuck to them, no matter what):

1. If he was rude or accused someone else of wrongdoing, we made him stop immediately and appologize. He then had to leave, as no one wants to play with someone exhibiting such a bad attitude.

2. Any other shows of bad attitude and poor sportsmanship meant that he had to leave, for the same reason.

The first time my husband took him from the table (very gently) and placed him in his room to play by himself, ds was completely shocked- I don't think he really believed we would follow through . Since ds has ADHD and is a perfectionist (therefore easily frustrated), he did have to leave the fun a few more times before the message finally got through. Now (at 10yo), he removes *himself* when he feels frustration setting in.

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