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Posted: July 25 2007 at 8:01pm | IP Logged Quote Cathmomof8
Our 3rd son is 15.5yo and is, I see now, hitting the beginnings of what hit the oldest two - embarrasment at our large family when in public and also this ds gets very stressed out by the 4yo constant jabbering, the noise the 15 month old makes at Mass, etc. Is it just us? Any remedies? This poor son has always been more easily stressed even at home by noise, interruptions, etc. I'll be starting hs with him and I don't want things to go bad the way they did with my eldest especially and then trickled down to son #2.

In general I'd love to see some more nurturing behavior from my older boys and also some more patience, tolerance and understanding. Asking too much??

We have several friends that have large families too. It's not that they can think they are the only ones.

I wanted to write more but sweet Annemarie has learned to climb up on the couch. And Scotty is only encouraging her. yikes. need to run...

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Posted: July 26 2007 at 9:45am | IP Logged Quote LisaR
My oldest, 14, is kind of like this. I try to give him his space in public and if I almost ignore him, he usually ends up coming around and helping carry his sister, a package, etc. I never talk to him about his behaviour in public, it seems to make it worse for him and me- we both end up frustrated and he hates the added attention it draws (or he thinks it draws). I let him move away from us at Mass in the pew if he needs to.
I am making a huge effort to talk to him like an adult (not all chummy like a peer, but just real matter of fact) and that seems to be working as well.
have to run- but I hope to chat more about this soon!


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Posted: Aug 07 2007 at 9:04am | IP Logged Quote CAgirl4God
gosh, my oldest is only 11, so I am not there yet.

but for us, the more time they are around each other, the better they are intuned and get along. not saying that evey minute of every day is like this LOL NOT even close, but that is what I have experienced in our household.

maybe with the starting of hsing him, things may change on there own???


now of course I am not experienced in this area, so if I am way off base and everyone with teens is laughing out loud right now...just disregard...LOL

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For us, actually, our son has always been hsed. And my 12yo and under crowd love having a large family and actually want MORE. Seems when my olders have hit that more self conscious time that they start to get embarrassed and stressed in public. Sometimes it hits before I know it - like a few months back when I asked almost 15yo ds to carry the baby out to the car in the church parking lot. He did it but was obviously unhappy and distressed. I was grateful actually that he told me when I asked that he is embarrassed to hold her in public like that. Go figure.

I do remember thinking the whole world was looking at me and worrying about what people thought too at that age and being easily embarrassed. I try not to take it too personally - especially this 3rd time around, and try to minimize it and also though bring it upfront at one time or another. If taht makes any sense.

Theresia - starting to stress at just how I'll manage this school year, as I plan and plan...
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