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My parents live far away--2 day's drive. They visit every few months for 2-3 weeks each time. It can be very difficult to live with each other for that long. They will be here in an hour.
Last week when I spoke with them, they were arriving the 8th-tomorrow. Tomorrow am was my prep their room and bathroom time. I had hoped to get some school work done today as the next few weeks we will accomplish very little. Ds is getting behind. It is getting very disruptive to have them here so often and for so long. I feel bad having these feelings. They are older, I don't know how much longer they will be able to do this. I try to offer it up as these are the only grandkids they have. So hard.
We are getting off to a rough start this visit. Please pray we have a decent visit and I can accomplish some goals. I always hope they will take the kids and keep them busy but that doesn't always happen I end up serving my mom.
And dh and I have been working on our marriage and make some forward progress, they come, and we revert to old ways and go back 14 steps. It takes us months to get back to where we were.
Thanks for listening and for any prayers. Off to try to at least get the bathroom clean
As always, I pray for all the intentions here.
__________________ Anne, married to dh 16 years!, ds,(97), Little One (02), and dd (02).
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stacykay Forum All-Star
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Posted: May 07 2010 at 1:31pm | IP Logged
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Praying for you, Anne!
God Bless,
Stacy in MI
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Kathryn Forum All-Star
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I will pray for you, Anne. Try and enjoy their time and effort to drive all that way even though it can take much sacrifice. I can so emphathize as a BTDT!!
__________________ Kathryn in TX
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Angie Mc Board Moderator
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I am sending prayers right now, Anne . May God give your whole family the grace you need to do His will under difficult circumstances. This topic might offer some ideas to help you through the next few weeks. God bless you for being a welcoming and generous daughter.
Love,
__________________ Angie Mc
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guitarnan Forum Moderator
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I am praying.
And please know that you're not alone with the school disruption issue. I think that happens to a lot of people who homeschool and host houseguests. It certainly does to me. I finally learned (emphasis on finally ) that I needed to plan lots of field trips and park days when grandparents are here. Trying to do math while someone's in the other room saying, "Just pretend I'm not here," doesn't work at my house.
__________________ Nancy in MD. Mom of ds (24) & dd (18); 31-year Navy wife, move coordinator and keeper of home fires. Writer and dance mom.
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SuzanneG Forum Moderator
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Praying for you, Anne. And, please don't hesitate to come back and post after their visit...and we can pray for "recovery-mode"....for you and your husband!!! I know this is especially hard on marriages.
__________________ Suzanne in ID
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hylabrook1 Forum Moderator
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Praying, Anne. May you find balance amidst your conflicted feelings. It's so good to have parents/grandparents who want to spend time with you all, at the same time it's hard to keep your life where you think it needs to be when guests are around. Both good things - just not always clearly harmonious.
Peace,
Nancy
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SeaStar Forum Moderator
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Posted: May 07 2010 at 8:09pm | IP Logged
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Oh, Anne!
I can so relate. I will be praying!
__________________ Melinda, mom to ds ('02) and dd ('04)
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Praying for a peaceful visit, Anne.
__________________ Blessings,
Celeste
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mariB Forum All-Star
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Dear Anne, praying for you and for your family...
__________________ marib-Mother to 22ds,21ds,18ds,15dd,11dd and wife to an amazing man for 23 years
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Anne, I just went through my mom and her husband staying with us for a few days. You have all my prayers.
__________________ Paula
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Mary K Forum All-Star
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Praying for you, Anne.
Could you include your parents in more relaxed school days? They could read stories, play/teach games, handcrafts, cooking,etc. Tell about their childhoods, where they grew up, their hobbies, occupations they held, you could do a ministudy of events that happened when they were younger.
God bless,
Mary-NY
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Praying in empathy! Only we are the long-term guests this round. Schooling is games, wii, books on CD, reading time, and walks outside. Marriage is suffering. No real advice there, sorry.
Having just lost a parent, I encourage you to focus on the blessing it is to have them both with you! And maybe do a family history unit study while they are here? Record family stories, make a family tree on the wall, map out where extended family lives or where you have vacationed or lived, calculate distances/drive times to those places, talk about the different climates/ecosystems/flora/fauna of those places, etc. This allows a lot of involvement on the grandparents' part and maybe can be a nice trip down memory lane for you and dh?
Praying!
__________________ Wife to wonderful DH, mom to SIX beautiful gifts from God!
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