| Author | |
teachingmyown
Forum All-Star
Joined: Feb 20 2005
Location: Virginia
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 5128
|
| Posted: July 07 2009 at 5:33pm | IP Logged
|
 |
|
Could you please offer a quick prayer for me this evening? I need to make a phone call to handle an uncomfortable situation that I can't avoid. Pray that I am able to be clear and charitable. I hate any sort of conflict and can be "nice" to a fault.  But this is for my children and I need to just do it.
Thanks!
__________________
In Christ,
Molly
wife to Court & mom to ds '91, dd '96, ds '97, dds '99, '01, '03, '06, and dss '07 and 01/20/11
Remembering Today
|
| Back to Top |
|
| |
Angie Mc
Board Moderator
Joined: Jan 31 2005
Location: Arizona
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 11400
|
| Posted: July 07 2009 at 5:53pm | IP Logged
|
|
|
You know I'm praying for you, Molly  .
Love,
__________________
Angie Mc
Maimeo to Henry! Dave's wife, mom to Mrs. Devin+Michael Pope, Aiden 20,Ian 17,John Paul 11,Catherine (heaven 6/07)
About Me
|
| Back to Top |
|
| |
cvbmom
Forum All-Star
Joined: Feb 15 2005
Location: Ohio
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 930
|
| Posted: July 07 2009 at 6:02pm | IP Logged
|
|
|
I can empathize with that! I'm praying for you for strength and charity...
God bless,
Christine
__________________
Wife to dh - 18 years!
Mom to dd (16), ds (15), dd, (12), dd (11), ds (9), dd (8), dd (7), ds (5), dd (3), ds (2), and ds (1)
|
| Back to Top |
|
| |
jenk
Forum Pro
Joined: Jan 25 2008
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 248
|
| Posted: July 07 2009 at 6:17pm | IP Logged
|
|
|
I can relate and will be praying.
__________________
Jen
with 2 boys, 14 and 8, and a girl expected 1/09
|
| Back to Top |
|
| |
Mary G
Forum All-Star
Joined: Feb 07 2005
Location: Virginia
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 5790
|
| Posted: July 07 2009 at 6:31pm | IP Logged
|
|
|
Hugs and prayers, Molly!
__________________
MaryG
3 boys (22, 12, 8)2 girls (20, 11)
my website that combines my schooling, hand-knits work, writing and everything else in one spot!
|
| Back to Top |
|
| |
teachingmyown
Forum All-Star
Joined: Feb 20 2005
Location: Virginia
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 5128
|
| Posted: July 07 2009 at 8:03pm | IP Logged
|
|
|
Thank you for the prayers. It didn't go as well as I hoped. I wasn't as firm as I needed to be and I am afraid the situation is still not resolved.
Continued prayers would be greatly appreciated. I am stressed and worn out.
Thanks!
__________________
In Christ,
Molly
wife to Court & mom to ds '91, dd '96, ds '97, dds '99, '01, '03, '06, and dss '07 and 01/20/11
Remembering Today
|
| Back to Top |
|
| |
Ruth
Forum All-Star
Joined: Nov 04 2006
Location: Virginia
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 5007
|
| Posted: July 07 2009 at 8:05pm | IP Logged
|
|
|
I'm sorry about that, Molly. I'll be offering many prayers for you in the coming days.
__________________
Ruth
mom to 7 miracles
My family blog
Loreto Rosaries
|
| Back to Top |
|
| |
MaryM
Board Moderator
Joined: Feb 11 2005
Location: Colorado
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 13104
|
| Posted: July 07 2009 at 8:32pm | IP Logged
|
|
|
Oh dear, Molly - praying still.
__________________
Mary M. in Denver
Our Domestic Church
|
| Back to Top |
|
| |
Carole N.
Forum All-Star
Joined: Oct 28 2006
Location: Wales
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 4484
|
| Posted: July 08 2009 at 6:37am | IP Logged
|
|
|
Praying for you, Molly!
__________________
 Carole ... in Wales
|
| Back to Top |
|
| |
jdostalik
Forum All-Star
Joined: Feb 15 2005
Location: Texas
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 2935
|
| Posted: July 08 2009 at 6:44am | IP Logged
|
|
|
Sorry to hear this, Molly. I am praying for you.
__________________
God Bless,
Jennifer in TX
wife to Bill, mom to six here on earth and eight in heaven.
Let the Little Ones Come
|
| Back to Top |
|
| |
10 Bright Stars
Forum All-Star
Joined: Nov 16 2006
Location: Virginia
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 728
|
| Posted: July 08 2009 at 10:16am | IP Logged
|
|
|
Molly,
I feel for you as I am the same way. Is this a situation your husband could step in on? If not, just convince yourself that you have the right to say what you are saying and you don't need to be apologetic. I am like that all the time, and if often ends up making the situation worse. If you are just to the point, firm, and confident acting, this alone is usually disarming to the other person and they respect you for your convictions. It is especially effective if you are usually NOT this way, so people will be taken aback by it at first, but then they will get over it. And, making someone else mad at you is not the end of the world. (I have to tell myself this too, so completely understandable if you are thinking, "It might just BE!"  )
You could call again in a few days and say, "I just wanted to follow-up on our call since I am not sure I really explained myself well the first time." Then, do your do-over. Maybe even have a few points there on a piece of paper since my mind tends to fly out the window while under stress!!  I always falter when the other person starts going on the defensive, and then I lose my resolve and feel guilty. Maybe have a picture of the kids there to remind you that this is about them and not you so YOU don't have to feel guilty since you are doing this under the mantle or title of "Mother". Just like a boss at work might like the guy he has to fire, feel sorry for him, and would have great fun with him on a fishing trip, BUT, well, he is the boss in this situation and puts on his boss hat; so it is nothing personal. And, don't apologize or make a bunch of justifications. I do that all the time too and it just makes the other person annoyed. (My husband has pointed this out to me since I didn't realize I do this and it annoys him! (LOL] ) As I have gotten older, I figured, what the heck. I always do the same ole' dance and I get the same ole' results. Now I think, let's just try some other ways or dealing with people instead of the same dysfunctional ways. Nothing terrible seems to happen. Sometimes I think we are afraid of being honest, afraid of "being ourselves" since we try to be nice and "perfect" all the time. My husband has lectured me, er, I mean "counseled" me  numerous times that there is politeness, (my argument for what I do in these situations), but then truly what I am doing is actually NOT true politeness since I am actually festering inside about the person/situation and acting "nice" on the outside due to "politeness" when this is not the truth. Something to ponder.
Also, always take it to Our Lady. When I have a family situation that I just can't work out and give up on I ask her to "fix it for me" and it always seems to just reslove itself or go away or I have the courage to say something. Remember, your a person with feelings, rights, thoughts that have a right to be voiced even if they feel "mean" or "uncomfortable". There is Christian Charity of course, but I doubt you will cross that line being a person concerned with other's feelings, but I think sometimes we feel guilty for things we shouldn't and that regular people would just say and then move on and it isn't the big deal we think it is.
Good luck!
Kim
__________________
Kim married to Bob (22y)
Mom of 11 blessings:
Bobby 19, David 17, Noah 14,
Mary 12, Gracie 10,
Isabelle and Sophia 8,
Gabrielle 6,
William Anthony 4, Joseph 3 and Luisa Marie - born in M
|
| Back to Top |
|
| |
Booksnbabes
Forum All-Star
Joined: July 20 2008
Location: N/A
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 4141
|
| Posted: July 08 2009 at 12:58pm | IP Logged
|
|
|
Praying for full resolution, Molly!
__________________
Wife to wonderful DH, mom to SIX beautiful gifts from God!
|
| Back to Top |
|
| |
hylabrook1
Forum Moderator
Joined: July 09 2006
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 5980
|
| Posted: July 08 2009 at 1:41pm | IP Logged
|
|
|
Praying that your situation works out in the best possible way.
Peace,
Nancy
|
| Back to Top |
|
| |
rm4mrfrus
Forum Pro
Joined: March 27 2006
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 282
|
| Posted: July 08 2009 at 9:31pm | IP Logged
|
|
|
Praying for it to be resolved Molly. I too hate confrontations and feel for you having to deal with it!
__________________
Hollee married to dh in 94,
ds(96), dd(97), ds(00), ds(02), ds(03) and dd(05)
|
| Back to Top |
|
| |
Mackfam
Board Moderator
Non Nobis
Joined: April 24 2006
Location: Alabama
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 14656
|
| Posted: July 10 2009 at 7:04am | IP Logged
|
|
|
Oh, Molly I'm praying!!!! Have you considered sending the guardian angels to negotiate a bit...I often prayerfully beg my guardian angel and that person's guardian angel to pray that God's will be accomplished in charity. Maybe calling in some heavenly reinforcements will help.
Praying for you!
__________________
Jen Mackintosh
Wife to Rob, mom to dd 19, ds 16, ds 11, dd 8, and dd 3
Wildflowers and Marbles
|
| Back to Top |
|
| |
Nique
Forum All-Star
Joined: March 07 2008
Location: Canada
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 1222
|
| Posted: July 10 2009 at 7:46am | IP Logged
|
|
|
Just seeing this now, praying!
__________________
I had always thought that once you grew up you could do anything you wanted - stay up all night or eat ice cream straight out of the container. ~Bill Bryson
|
| Back to Top |
|
| |
aussieannie
Forum All-Star
Joined: May 21 2006
Location: Australia
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 7251
|
| Posted: July 10 2009 at 4:44pm | IP Logged
|
|
|
Lot of great advice there Kim! I have always been the one who finds it so hard to express what I need to but I have in the two years gotten much better, it has been a grace in many ways because I feel now that I have more balance. Praying that you can say what needs to be said when the time is right.
__________________
Under Her Starry Mantle
Spiritual Motherhood for Priests
Blessed with 3 boys & 3 girls!
|
| Back to Top |
|
| |
teachingmyown
Forum All-Star
Joined: Feb 20 2005
Location: Virginia
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 5128
|
| Posted: July 12 2009 at 10:54pm | IP Logged
|
|
|
Thank you all for your prayers! The situation has been resolved without anymore needing to be said.  What a relief!
__________________
In Christ,
Molly
wife to Court & mom to ds '91, dd '96, ds '97, dds '99, '01, '03, '06, and dss '07 and 01/20/11
Remembering Today
|
| Back to Top |
|
| |
Willa
Forum All-Star
Joined: Jan 28 2005
Location: California
Online Status: Offline
Posts: 3881
|
| Posted: July 12 2009 at 11:23pm | IP Logged
|
|
|
Praying, Molly.
__________________
AMDG
Willa
hsing boys ages 11, 14, almost 18 (+ 4 homeschool grads ages 20 to 27)
Take Up and Read
|
| Back to Top |
|
| |
4Real Forums : We Pray to the Lord
Topic: Prayers for an uncomfortable situation
