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for myself. For as long as I can remember I have had a very strong fear of death (at times fear of death of my loved ones, at others fear of my own death). I've prayed about it and struggled with it, making some headway in the last couple of years. Well, it's back with a vengeance. 
In February my dear grandfather passed away. It was around that time that I began to develop a myriad of symptoms. I've been countless times to doctors, most of the time being told that stress is the cause. The only diagnosis (?) that has been made is fibromyalgia. The more time that passes without figuring out what is going on in my body, the more fearful of death I become. It is to the point where tonight I am almost afraid to go to sleep that I may not wake up in the morning to another day with my beautiful family.
I take a step in faith telling you this. A long, long time ago I got into my head that I would die at the age of 33. I am 33 now and will be turning 34 in November. I haven't been thinking all that much about this until recently, identifying that this thought may indeed be the source of my stress and symptoms. I had a friend who "knew" that he would die at age 30 and told this to his family and friends quite openly. He did in fact die at age 30, in his sleep. 
I have a feeling that the next few months will really be hard for me as I face this personal "crisis". I believe it really is a crisis of faith and know that God is challenging me to grow during this difficult time.
Your prayers for peace in my heart and trust in the good Lord's providence are very much appreciated. I also welcome advice or recommendations of resources, especially Catholic ones. Thank you!
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Kristin, you poor dear. I'm sorry that your heart has been so burdened. I will certainly pray for your peace and faith during this time. I hope the knowledge that you have all these prayers gives you comfort!
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Kristin, I will be praying that Our Lady lift these fears off you completely.
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I understand your fears, Kristin, and I will be praying for you.
Just tell Our Gentle Mother...she will help!
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Kristin wrote:
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Oh, Kristin  you are a very courageous women. I'm thankful that you felt safe enough here to open up and share this.
Call on the name of the Lord (Psalm 116:4)
Please know you will be in my prayers!
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Read all of Psalm 116. I will pray it brings you comfort.
Here are some verses...
3 The cords of death entangled me,
the anguish of the grave came upon me;
I was overcome by trouble and sorrow.
4 Then I called on the name of the LORD
"O LORD, save me!"
8 For you, O LORD, have delivered my soul from death,
my eyes from tears,
my feet from stumbling,
9 that I may walk before the LORD
in the land of the living.
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I'll pray, Kristin.
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Dear Kristin, I will be offering up Mass this morning for you, and will add your intentions to our family Rosaries.
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Praying for you, Kristin.
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Offering prayers for you right now, Kristin.
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Praying for you, Kristin.
Peace,
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Praying for you, Kristin. Our Blessed Mother will help you to fight this battle!
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I will be praying for you! I am sorry you have such anxiety and are bearing this cross. Please talk to a trusted priest for he could bring you much comfort.
God bless you,
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Kristin,
I dealt with the same sort of fears when I was pregnant with my first son. My mother had died in childbirth with me (her first) when she was 24, and I was pregnant with my first at the age of 24. I was born 4 days before my father's 25th birthday, and my son was due very close to my dh's 25th birthday as well. Added to this was my fear of giving birth on the 13th because *my* birthday was on the 13th.
Writing all this out in this fashion does not begin to convey how crippling I found all these fears at the time. I did, in fact, give birth on the 13th. I also cannot tell you how relieved I was when this milestone passed, and I was still alive.
I will keep you in my prayers as you walk through this dark valley.
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Prayers for you Kristin.
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Kristin, praying for Peace for you.
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Dear Kristin, I am sorry you are burdened with this fear. I will pray for you over the next few months. Thank you for asking for prayers.
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Kristin-
I will definitely pray for you. I have the same fears at times- that I will not live to see my children grow up. I think part of it comes from being bombarded all the time in the media about different diseases, symptoms,medications.... it can make you start to feel doomed,
A big hug and lots of prayers for you.
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Kristin,
You are in my prayers.
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Thank you, everyone, for your kindness and your prayers. I felt the burden lift a little last night after I posted, not feeling as alone with all of this as I have been.
Angela, thank you so much for sharing your story. Your situation was very uncanny. I can only imagine the turmoil you experienced during that difficult time ... and the great joy when the time of trial was over! It's comforting to know that others have experienced similar fears and have lived to tell about it!
For me, last night was a night of heartfelt prayer and soul searching. There was an outpouring of grace and I expect that as I continue into the months to come, God will not cease to amaze me with His goodness and mercy.
Thank you all again for being here and for your prayers.
God bless!
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Your story is very similar to my own from the death of my grandfathers even down to the "fibromyalgia" diagnosis (which was wrong!). In my case, it was not anything medical, it was psychological. Oh, the symptoms were real (aches, pains, heart flutters, feeling wired, restless sleep, toothaches, fear of death, focus on death and dying, obsessive focus on other things), but it was stress and anxiety, the constant internal focus on "how do I feel right now" that kept winding me up, the constant thoughts "what is wrong with me" and "what if I have a brain tumor and don't know it", "what if I have melanoma and the doctor missed it", etc.....
Mine is an anxiety disorder that I have managed to get under control without medication but with exercise, good nutrition, getting out of the house regularly (with the kids and without) and about a year of therapy with a Catholic therapist. You can see if there is one in your area by visiting this website.
I will definitely keep you in my prayers. This can be beaten!
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