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I have another question related to our son's wedding. Are there any special Catholic traditions that pertain to the Rehearsal Dinner ? I barely remember ours, it was so long ago  and I have only been to a few others since. I've searched the web a bit, but haven't really found anything. Was there anything that made your rehearsal special ? I'm starting to feel a bit panicky - any and all ideas will be appreciated !!
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Kym
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Kym,
No, there are no traditional Catholic practices for the rehearsal. I just checked my Catholic etiquette books to make sure. There might be some ethnic ones that I'm not aware.
For mine, we had it in a special room in a restaurant. All out-of-town family, attendants and their family and all of both of our immediate family attended...so it was a big group. And we included kids.
The Catholic touches -- after the rehearsal Father offered to hear any Confessions before the dinner, just in case needed to go before the Nuptial Mass.
Father was also invited (and came) to the dinner. And we offered non-meat courses since it was Friday. Father led the blessing and it was just a good family get-together. I was second to last daughter's wedding (even though I am the oldest of 5 girls), and it had become a tradition for the groom-to-be to speak and thank everyone, and my Father also gave a little speech.
Those are my immediate thoughts. Afterward dh and I said a rosary together before we parted until the next day.
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Jenn -
Slightly OT but, your "Catholic etiquette book" --- what? where? Sounds indispensable.
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hylabrook1 wrote:
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I was wondering the same thing. I'd love to know more about this book... 
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We also had confession that night.
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Thank you all for the responses - please keep them coming Having confession available is a wonderful idea.
I do have a book on Catholic etiquette called "American Catholic Etiquette" by Kay Toy Fenner, copyright 1961. Knowing Jenn has an outstanding collection of older books, I'd guess that one's probably in her library too  It's a wonderful book, but some of the information is dated. I found another book, Catholic Etiquette: What you need to Know about Catholic Rites and Wrongsthat was published in 1997, but I don't know anything about it.
Maybe by the time I go through a few more wedding and hopefully an ordination or 2 ( or 3 or 4  ) I can write my own etiquette book
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Kym
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KASB wrote:
I do have a book on Catholic etiquette called "American Catholic Etiquette" by Kay Toy Fenner, copyright 1961. Knowing Jenn has an outstanding collection of older books, I'd guess that one's probably in her library too It's a wonderful book, but some of the information is dated. I found another book, Catholic Etiquette: What you need to Know about Catholic Rites and Wrongsthat was published in 1997, but I don't know anything about it.
Maybe by the time I go through a few more wedding and hopefully an ordination or 2 ( or 3 or 4 ) I can write my own etiquette book |
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American Catholic Etiquette is my favorite, and yes, Kym is correct, that is the main one I use. Although older, the approach to Nuptial weddings is the most correct. All books on wedding etiquette have incorrect advice. That book helped me word my invitation.
I did not like Catholic Etiquette: What you need to Know about Catholic Rites and Wrongs because it was very informal and subjective.
I had one more title that I use "The Catholic Layman's Book of Etiquette" by Robert Broderick, another older title.
There are other books that help with the protocol of Church hierarchy, ceremonies and titles, like the now out of print and very valuable The Church Visible by James Noonan.
But Kym, your book would be very helpful and needed!
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Some of these are Catholic suggestions and some are not...
1. Friend of mine had an hour of adoration and rosary before her rehearsal (followed by confessions as JennGM suggested). The holy hour was beautiful.
2. My sister for several rehearsals has been compiling a power point presentation of the bride and groom that she puts on screen. With two songs as background, she flashes: baptismal pictures, first communion pictures, confirmaiton pictures as well as other childhood pictures of the bride and groom. It was neat to see their "sacramental journey."
3. I've been to three rehearsal dinners "run" by my sister's MIL (widow). All were held at a private room in a restaurant. She is very gracious and gets up and thanks everyone for coming. Says a little bit about God's will for the bride and groom and then has each of the siblings give a memory about the sibling at the rehearsal which ended with a prayer/blessing or wish for them.
And good to hear about the recommendations on the Catholic etiquette books!!
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Maryan, those ideas are wonderful!
Kym, I was thinking you could create some beautiful religious centerpieces for the table, depending on the time of year, perhaps picking up on the colors from the bridal party.
I wonder if you could also say a special prayer at the outset, inviting the priest to come and lead.
Or, how about this for a new tradition? Instead of a toast, have a blessing, leaving little holy water bottles at each place and, at a certain point, inviting the guests to splash some toward the happy couple! Then they could bring the remaining holy water and bottles home as a souvenir.
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alicegunther wrote:
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That's a great idea...my brother-in-law is getting married and my mother-in-law would love that suggestion!
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