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setonmom
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How do you all deal with offensive facebook posts from family members? A close family member has become an evangelist for gay marriage and posts pro gay stuff almost every day. Now today she is posting pro birth control stuff. I had always had the point of view of never posting anything political on facebook, anything I post will not change anyone's mind. But now I'm wondering if that's just an excuse, and I'm really just a coward. What would you do?
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I have never had anything productive come from 99.99% of FB arguments. I either ignore those types of posts, or I hide the person altogether so that they don't show up in my feed.
If I feel the need to post something, it's usually only if I feel I can make a very brief statement to clear up a misunderstanding - like, if someone posts "the Catholic Church says XYZ!" I will reply "no! it says ABC!"
If that type of reply OR a conversation that starts on something that I initially posted turns into a giant, time-sucking argument, I have been really trying to back off and say that I do not have the time or interest to argue, but that I will answer any honest inquiry. That usually ends it.
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I have the same kind of policy -- no political posts, especially. I try consciously to use Facebook in a manner that is positive and charitable, though I do go out of my way to "like" and share good Church-related items . . . Anyway, I sometimes feel that I'm a coward, too, but as Tracy says, those arguments too often are just counterproductive wastes of time and energy. If I get wrapped up in one, it eats at me all day, and I brood and brood . . . not worth it on any level to let the internet intrude that far into my mental health!
In the past I have ignored posts like the ones you describe, and on a couple of occasions I have blocked or hidden the person, again because I don't need the intrusion of that stuff on my daily consciousness. It's not like I didn't know it was out there, or that the people posting it think what they think, but Facebook just seems like the wrong forum for any discussion.
It's so open, for one thing: if I could *just* talk to that one person, maybe that would be okay, but at any moment fifty of their friends might come along and flame me, and that's not the way honest conversation is supposed to work. I would never have a serious conversation in a venue where -- well, say I was at a restaurant, talking to my friend about X, Y, or Z, and people from tables all around ours not only overheard every word we said, but got up to come over and yell at one or both of us. That is how Facebook is, and I really dislike it. So mostly I restrict my interactions to the light, positive, and loving, particularly with distant family members with whom I may disagree.
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Ditto what the other ladies said.
I hide people who post heavily things that bother me.
I also have a rule of three for discussions. If something I post to clarify (I do much like Tracy does) gets addressed, I will allow myself two responses at the most. Then, I walk away 
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I just unfriend them no matter who they are. They usually don't ever figure it out anyway. Some figure it out and send me a friend request in which I don't respond. I haven't had anyone ask me what was going on when I never responded. But, I haven't had an immediate family member do this.
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you can go to your friends page and take them off the list of people that you see in your newsfeed.. then you can go to their page and keep them as friends but you don't have to see their junk constantly..
I've done that just because of so much stuff posted that I had absolutely no interest in.
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I limit my "friends" to just family, one family member has been blocked-but I do go check her wall occasionally as she is battling breast cancer and I like to check on her(her language was too much for me  ), and somehow, I have limited the posts I can see from my family's friends. It's a fairly quiet and pleasant experience.  though I have given it up for Lent 
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Thanks ladies- you have all confirmed what my husband has suggested- just hide the offensive person and don;t check her page ( I had hidden her, but was still checking her page from time to time, then getting upset). And now I am "liking" pages with positive stories about the church, such as news about our wonderful new Pope!
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