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Posted: Jan 05 2012 at 9:33am | IP Logged Quote Turtle
Dear friends of ours recently announced that they are going to be adopting a child within the next several months after years of struggling with infertility. To say the scene in my house when they announced this was joyous is putting it very mildly.
Would it be out of place to send a card that is of the "Yippee! You're expecting!" variety? That is the joyful reaction in my heart, but I don't want to take a chance of offending.

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Posted: Jan 05 2012 at 10:21am | IP Logged Quote guitarnan
What about a cute "Congratulations!" card? You could add a note saying how happy you are that they are adopting a child.

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Posted: Jan 05 2012 at 3:03pm | IP Logged Quote Nique
How very thoughtful of you to think to do something like this Melissa!

They will your act of kindness!!

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Absolutely! Hopefully they won't encounter people who think an adopted child is not their real child but chances are high that they will.
When they do, the memory of your card will soften the blow and make them realize how much you embrace them and their new child.
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Posted: Jan 05 2012 at 9:40pm | IP Logged Quote Mary K
i'm pretty sure you can find adoption cards. if not, send a "you're expecting" card. afterall, they are expecting a child, just in a different way.
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If you type "adoption congratulations greeting cards" into the search engine it looks like there are some sites that have cards specifically to congratulate friends/family on their adoption. HTH.

That is such a lovely thought to send them a card to show your love and support at the time of this joyous and momentous step in their life.

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Posted: Jan 06 2012 at 6:52am | IP Logged Quote jawgee
I think it's a lovely thought. I can't think of anyone that did that for us when we adopted our 3YO.

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Posted: Jan 06 2012 at 6:09pm | IP Logged Quote hmbress
I would have loved getting a card like that when we were waiting for our adopted children to be born!

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