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Posted: Nov 08 2008 at 12:16pm | IP Logged Quote glinNC
Have any of you dealt with family members who are not in tune with your intentions for home schooling? I've been home schooling a long time and have gotten comments here and there from family members about our lifestyle. But today it really got me ... I'm really tired of defending our choice ... our lifestyle.

I was told by immediate family that I have "tight reigns" on my kids ... even as teens. I've been accused of "living in a cocoon." I have been hurt many times by lack of understanding, offered it up, and go on. But now I feel that I should just tell them flat out that I'm done listening to them and feeling out of place because of their worldly views. I don't even want to be part of their Thanksgiving celebration ... it's uncomfortable to be with them because they have the TV going all the time, speak a fowl word occasionally, and dress immodestly (and worldly w/ the tattoos and earrings in the nose) ... would you feel the same way? What would you do? (They're fallen away Catholics who have also called me a "religious fanatic" in the past.)

I trust your wise sharing on this forum and would consider it an answer to prayer to get some responses that would help us come to a decision on how to handle this.

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Posted: Nov 08 2008 at 1:49pm | IP Logged Quote St. Ann
I am so sorry that you have to deal with this at all. I doubt that I have many words of wisdom , but I did want to comment on Thanksgiving.
Without mentioning tatoos, earings...just say that you as a family decided to celebrate Thanksgiving differently this year. You must prayerfully decide with your dh what is best for your family and then just do it. Perhaps you will find someone from your parish, be it a single person or a young family or an older couple, who you can invite to celebrate with your family. There is certainly no law that says you must celebrate T. with your bio-family. Why not with your Church family? You will experience a totally new niveau of Thanksgiving, if you can establish a common Christian atmosphere...

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Posted: Nov 08 2008 at 6:29pm | IP Logged Quote Sparrow
Thankfully my family is largely supportive (and my SIL also homeschools) but when situations like that come up (in regards to anything) I usually just smile and say something like "Thanks for your concern, but this is working really well for us and we're very pleased!"

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We have had a similar situation in my family as well. Our problems occur when the 22 of us go on vacation to the same house for a week every other year. My family no longer makes those homeschooling comments to my face but it is understood that we all have our own opinion. As for the behavior of the other family members, i.e. language, tattoos, piercing. I just use those instances as teaching moments.

I love my family very much. I find it easier to just keep my children in toe and away from as much of the offensive behavior as I can. My dh and I agree so that's a plus.

I hope this helps. I know we all have our family events that we dread. I would just do what you feel most comfortable with. I will pray that discernment comes clearly and quickly.

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