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MommyD
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Our dear friends have just lost their 2 week old child. I need some suggestions on a gift of some sort. I was thinking about a picture frame with his name engraved on it or something like that. Is that appropriate? Anything else that would be meaningful? I've never dealt with something like this before.
Melissa
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Melissa, I think it is a lovely idea. We did something similar with some dear friends who lost their baby, we framed a picture of Our Lady they had great devotion to, and had a plaque with "In Memory of......." attached to the frame.
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I would wait awhile, perhaps send flowers or a Mass card. In time the perfect gift idea will come. This family will be in my prayers tonight.
The reason I suggest waiting is because you are in such a fog when a child dies, and you need to time to just be. Also because the ladies on this forum waited until the firt anniversary of my son's death and blessed me with scrapbooking material. I would never have thought of that right after the death, and it was and continues to be the perfect gift in Gods good timing. This is just my experiene I don't pretend to know what is best for everyone.
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I can't imagine how hard this would be. This has happened a few times in our parish in the past couple years, it seems to be happening frequently for some reason. I agree to probably wait a while as I'm sure nothing aside from spiritual gifts can bring them much consolation right now.
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Some friends of mine who lost a child very much wanted to place a permanent grave marker at the grave site. People donated to this fund and I can't tell you how much comfort it has brought them to be able to go and visit and remember that little one.
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I was talking to Jennifer from Covenant Rosary and she told me that she wanted to make birthstone rosaries for those people that have experienced a death of a little one as it would give them something precious to hold. I have 2 of her rosaries...they are so very well made that my toddler can't break them and THAT is saying something  
FWIW, Jennifer is from the Magnum Opus yahoo group and her dh is in Iraq....she gives 25% of the proceeds to our Catholic soldiers and 25% to another charity.
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How about a plant? A very good friend of mine who lost her one year old a couple of years ago, has a Winter Daphne near her door. The Winter Daphne flowers in January (when her daughter died) and the fragrance is so sweet and strong that it embraces you when you walk up to the front door.
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I love the idea of a Rosary in the birthstone color..........I think if I were in their shoes, it might one of the only things that brings me comfort.
Praying mightily for your dear friends, Melissa. What was their wee baby's name? My heart just breaks for them.
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Masses are always appreciated. I was given a rose bush that I really like. My avatar is a picture of one of the roses from the rose bush. I will pray for the family.
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Melissa,
When we lost our little Jacob, my dear friends joined together and purchased and planted a beautiful little dogwood in our back yard along with a heart shaped stone with Jacob's Tree engraved on it. It was the memorial for our son.
I also have a framed hand and foot print of Jacob's. If you are able to get a copy of the baby's prints, you could have them framed for the family.
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I have a friend who lost her only child in a horrible car accident at age 11. We were den leaders for our sons in scouts. They had already moved away when this happened, but many of us wanted to remember Warren, so we planted an Oklahoma Redbud in his old neighborhood and placed a plaque underneath it. They also put up a rememberance for him at the Catholic school.
His mother has returned a couple of times to see the memorial tree (they had moved to England). It was very hard for her to loose her only son. But she certainly appreciated us remembering him.
I also had masses said for him at the time although my friend is not Catholic.
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His name is Mateo John Paul. He never developed any muscles in the womb. The pregnancy was healthy with no complications that would indicate a problem. His parents have a healthy 2 year old who has brought them great comfort during this sad time.
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Years ago I bought my cousin a Precious Moments statue of a baby on a cloud that read something like "Safe in the arms of God". She was able to have her baby's name put on it.
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I lost a son 11 years ago, at 4 months old to SIDS. The women from my prenatal exercise group group gave my a beautiful statue of Mary holding the baby Jesus for our yard with a memorial plaque on it. Families from our neighborhood planted a tree in our yard as a memorial. People from church purchased a lovely headstone for his grave.
None of this was done immediately though. It was a few months before I was able to recieve and appreciate a gift like these.
Have they had the funeral yet? A very close friend took pictures of the funeral, of his body laid out, and of our family during this time. Frankly, I didn't even notice her doing this. She also had the funeral home make hand and foot prints, and clip a lock of hair. On his first birthday she came over with it all in a beautiful memory box (along with other momentos from his short life) I am glad she waited that long to give it to me as there is no way I would have been able to handle it too soon after his death.
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When my niece died just after she was born I gave my sister a silver box engraved with her name and birth/death date.
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Lee Ann reminded me of another gift we received, a friend had a shadow box made, the contents are his baptism gown, candle, pictures of him with his Godparents, and the priest. It too was given to me sometime afterwards, as I was not able to handle such a emotional gift to soon.
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