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I love this forum!
2007 is the year I turn 40. 
Today my teen daughter was looking through my wedding album. She said, "Mom you were so beautiful when you were young!" Then she blushed and made a pitiful apology. 
It didn't bother me one bit. I assured her of this. I told her that I don't wish I was 25 again and that I don't wish I looked like that. I know that I am more beautiful to God today than I was on my wedding day. I think she expected me to lament the passage of time and the toll it has taken on me. How do we direct our young women to strive for inner beauty when the world assaults them with image after image of it's standards of beauty?
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Kathy wrote: "How do we direct our young women to strive for inner beauty when the world assaults them with image after image of it's standards of beauty?"
...by being at peace with our own body image and reflecting the inner beauty God has given us with confidence and grace. We have the blessed opportunity, along with our daughters, to create a new standard of beauty than the one the world portrays. The discussions on this board about modesty in dress is a beautiful example of how we CAN make a difference in the messages our daughters and grand-daughters, sons and grandsons, embrace!
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Smile and be pleasant. I know I keep harping on that. But do you realize how few people smile politely? Think how much more appealing and elegant a women looks with a gracious smile.
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I think one thing that helped me when I was young was my mom and grandma as role models -- they rarely wore makeup, didn't mind getting older (celebrating each and every birthday with style) and always dressed as nicely as possible/practical for each day.
Now, as I get older, I try and model the same behaviors. I allow my 15yod to wear makeup but I also tell her how nice she looks when she has little or none on; how beautiful her hair is down, etc.....
am I rambling?
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Mary G wrote:
I think one thing that helped me when I was young was my mom and grandma as role models -- they rarely wore makeup, didn't mind getting older (celebrating each and every birthday with style) and always dressed as nicely as possible/practical for each day.
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Ditto! Honestly, when I was a child I used to look forward to being older. I saw such graciousness and seasoning in the older people I knew in my life. I only hope to emulate that.
I've tried to keep that in mind when I talk with my daughter: focusing on healthy living, which can go on through a lifetime, rather than "looking younger". We don't keep womens' magazines around the house.
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But society seems to harp on being young, and we don't keep magazines around or watch tv. It comes from outsiders; mostly family and other people (even priests) who make comments about not liking their gray hair or feeling old, etc. People are constantly pointing out how "old" I look and its wearing on me. What is wrong with getting older? My kids hear this and I try to explain my POV to them, but I don't know if it helps. One day after Mass, the priest made a comment about all of my gray hair in front of a large group of people, including my children. I was in tears by the time I got to the car (PMS didn't help) and the kids wondered why. My dh is so wonderful and pointed out (in front of the kids) how beautiful he thinks I am but I felt like I was a poor example that time.
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I was just talking to dh on the weekend about how I am more accpeting of myself and my body now than I was in my 20s. I am reasonably fit and although I worked out in my 20s and was fit I was more self conscious - I wanted to try some sports then but I didn't. Now I do! 
The same with clothes and accessories - I wanted to wear more large earrings, for example, but worried they wouldn't suit my look. Now I wear them and could care less what others think ( mind you, my teens like them so the earrings can't be all too bad! ).
I just have a better sense of self and of who I am before God .
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I just realised I sounded very shallow ( not unusual for me.  ).
What I meant by my post  was that I have a better sense of self acceptance now I am older - and perhaps i can model this for my ds and their friends of the opposite sex.
So, modeling an inner self acceptance/inner beauty?
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My favorite comment to people when they ask about age or marvel at the fact that I'm in my 40's is, "I'm just like a fine wine, getting better with age!"  How's that for shallow, I love what you said, by the way Leonie!! It's true for me too!
I find that even on my worst days I'm a much better person now than I ever was in my 20's Age begets the things we lament about in our earlier years, and you know what, I don't *feel* like I'm 40-ish at all. It's only a number, it's all about attitude and what's in your heart.
What a beautiful forum this is...
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Leonie wrote:
I just realised I sounded very shallow ( not unusual for me. ).
What I meant by my post was that I have a better sense of self acceptance now I am older - and perhaps i can model this for my ds and their friends of the opposite sex.
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I don't think you sounded shallow, at all. I felt a lot like you did when I was young. Very healthy and fit, but I never felt completely comfortable with how I looked or, as you mentioned, trying new sports. I always trended toward the "solitary" sports (swimming, skiing, track, biking,) rather than any team sport. I have to say, my boys get a big laugh, but I have a great time shooting baskets (and missing most) out front with them!
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Meredith wrote:
I find that even on my worst days I'm a much better person now than I ever was in my 20's . |
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Meredith,
These wise words should go into a book of famous quotes.
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