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Posted: June 29 2013 at 2:48pm | IP Logged Quote TryingMyBest
Sorry for the awkwardly worded subject. We're considering a move to a very small apartment which will require getting rid of many of our possessions, including some of DD's toys. We've been blessed with generous friends and family who showered our DD with gifts.

I have no issues giving away/selling things we've bought for DD that she no longer needs but I feel weird about giving away something that was given to her as a gift. I definitely feel like I shouldn't sell anything that was given to us as a gift.

What is the etiquette for giving away things that were given to your children?

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Posted: June 29 2013 at 7:14pm | IP Logged Quote SeaStar
Children outgrow things so quickly, and without giving away or selling items,
you can quickly become overwhelmed. Not to mention running out of room!

I have no problem at all with passing on items that were given as gifts to my children. I also would have no problem taking them to a consignment store.

I used to struggle terribly with giving away gifts given to me, especially those from my mother. The wonderful ladies here helped me realize that when a gift is given out of love, the love does not disappear even if the gift leaves my home. I am not obligated to keep items that I didn't purchase and that I might not use or have room for in my house.

Same goes for gifts my children receive.


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Posted: June 29 2013 at 7:24pm | IP Logged Quote JodieLyn
Yes what Melinda said.

Once the item comes into your home whether by being purchased or as a gift, it is yours to do with as you will.

The exception of course is the occational special gift meant as a keepsake for the child. And even those may have to eventually be weeded out. Luckily they're usually not large items.

One other option especially for keepsakes that the child wil appreciate more when they're grown is to very selectively store items (like in a tote in an attic or garage storage space).

This is not for everyday toys though. Unless it's something you know you'd get again for another child (like we never get rid of duplos while I have kids in that age range or reasonable expectation to add children to the family who'll be in that age range) and is in good shape for use by another child, it should be sold or given away to someone who could use it.

Occationally I find myself worrying about *using* things that my grammy made and I have to shake myself and remind myself that these things were made to be used.. not to hide in a closet somewhere and never have the joy of using.

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