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dolorsofmary
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Posted: June 25 2010 at 8:30pm \| IP Logged

to a homeschooling environment. I have on 1 child who will be 5 yrs old in August. I am having trouble wrapping my mind around the love and logic concepts and applying it for a homeschooling environment where I am with him all the time. Can anyone help? Thanks!

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Posted: June 25 2010 at 10:01pm \| IP Logged

I think one of the misconceptions about home education is that Mom and child will be arguing or at odds most of the time. The reality is, you will butt heads now and then (over not wanting to do specific schoolwork, over cleaning rooms, whatever) but you will get to know each other so well over time that you, as the adult, will be able to anticipate conflicts much of the time and plan ahead for ways to deal with them.

With homeschooling, there is so much flexibility (you can change textbooks, work around appointments, etc.) that you don't have to argue over small stuff.

Positive discipline requires a lot of consistency from parents. The goal is to use redirection and logical consequences at an age-appropriate level. Sometimes that doesn't work out...think of child running into busy street...but a lot of the time, it works if you, the adult, are working on your end of things. You can offer choices ("You can do math first or narration first, but both need to be finished before you can go outside.") and tailor learning experiences to your child so that he looks forward to nature study, reading, etc. most of the time.

Logical consequences tend to evolve naturally ("If you don't eat your dinner, you will be hungry later, and you know already which healthy snacks you'll be able to eat before bed.") but you must also be ready to step in for the important things (proper food and rest, sunscreen, safety).

It's a process. We aren't born knowing everything about parenting, just as our children don't arrive knowing how to read and add. The lovely part is growing together - not that there aren't bumps along the way sometimes - and grow closer as a family in the process.

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Posted: June 25 2010 at 10:08pm \| IP Logged

Even running into the street can have logical consequences.

If you attempt to run into the street.. you will not be allowed to play out front (if it's at home) and we'll have to stay inside.. or if you're out and trying to walk through a parking lot and the child wants to run from you.. you can either hold my hand or I will put the harness on you.

Attempts like running.. it's logical to me that it would mean a curtailing of freedom.

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Posted: June 26 2010 at 7:03am \| IP Logged

Thank you! I've been listening to a lot of Love and Logic stuff and I have read the book for early childhood and have been applying the ideas as best as I can. But over and over again they apply it to situations where the kid goes to public school or daycare or stuff like that that we just don't do so I have a hard time wrapping my mind around how to apply it in our situation. Thank you you made it simpler for me. I just listened to 2 tapes and I felt overwhelmed afterwards and like how can I apply it to my situation! Thanks again.

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