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lovebeingamom
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My DS does not care to be read to - I am not expecting him to sit still while I read a novel .... but I thought he would be interested in looking at books, turning pages, hearing me read to him or DD, etc.
I take him to the library and/or bookstores in hopes that something might grab his attention ... nothing. Any suggestions on how to get him more interested in reading?
He comprehends, understands 1 (and sometimes 2)-part directions, but doesn't really *say* much either. Should I be concerned?
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sounds like he's busy doing and learning other things for now.. I wouldn't worry and would let him be.
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My little guy wasn't much into books at that age, either. He loves to hear stories read aloud now. Just don't push it, and he'll let you know when he's interested. Boys live in their bodies for a much longer time than girls do. No need to worry- he'll get there when he's ready! Hugs!
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I'm agreeing with everyone else here, lovebeingamom!
At 13 months - I definitely wouldn't worry! If he brings you a little book, stop what you're doing and read or point out pictures - look at the cow...isn't that a big truck? If he hops up after 10 seconds, don't be surprised and go back to what you were doing and let him play. Don't push. Set out a little basket of cute board books. He'll let you know when he's ready to sit still a little longer. Just keep following his cues! He sounds like he's doing fine to me!
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lovebeingamom wrote:
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Just wanted to second what the other ladies have mentioned here and to add that the times when I think my children aren't listening at all to what I am reading (they look completely engaged in other things, are staring out the window watching the birds fly by, etc.) are often the times they are listening quite closely. It's often hard to tell when a little one is listening and when he isn't. So read on!
Also, when my kids went through the hard-to-sit-still age, I often read during snack times--mouths full of food and bottoms stuck in high chairs assured me of a captive audience!  I don't like to keep them sitting any longer than I have to at that age, so combining meals and reading time left plenty of time for busy-busy children to remain on the go!
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While I've known children who'd sit on a lap and let me read to them at that age, most of my 13mth babies would be more likely to
-perch on my lap,
-grab at the book
-flip as fast as possible through the pages,
-fuss if I tried to slow them down so that I could read or even point at pictures
-and then either want to nurse or to squirm off the lap as they were 'done now'.
With my oldest I was given a book called _High Chair Devotions_ with the idea being reading one very short page when the toddler was happily settled in a high chair (very sweet devotions BTW). My current babe gets upset because I'm not giving it to her so that she can turn the pages and throw it on the floor!
I've found that certain babes were only interested at looking at books in the bath (I've a few plastic and foam bath time books) or playing with busy books (the type that have things to play with).
However even my busiest babe was willing to sit for a bit and be read to by the age of three. Normally the first books that they'd be willing to sit through would be books with rhythmic language (my son would sit and listen to one or two nursery rhymes long before he'd sit through anything else).
As for speaking, the rule of thumb I was taught was
the child should be saying at least
-one word phrases at age one
-two word phrases by age two
-three word sentences by age three
Receptive language is a much better indicator at this age then spoken language.
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ekbell wrote:
As for speaking, the rule of thumb I was taught was
the child should be saying at least
-one word phrases at age one
-two word phrases by age two
-three word sentences by age three
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I hope so.  He really doesn't speak much at all. He points to things of interest and I (DH or DD) will tell him very enthusatically what it is ... but he never tries to say the word himself. DS's ped. said that if he was not saying a few words by 15 mo. that I should bring him in for *evaluation*.
Part of me is concerned .... then the other part of me says he is just fine as long as he is still comprehending, processing what we are saying, etc. He knows 3 body parts consistently as well as some other things (if you ask him where the light is, etc.). He also knows some sign language.
My DD (will be 3 in Dec.) has complete conversations with people and you can understand everything she says - she has been this way for some time now. I guess DS is just a little bit slower than her (or she is a little advanced for her age???).
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there's a huge huge range of talking.. my 3 yr olds are barely starting to talk.. as long as mine are understanding and communicating in some way.. I don't worry about it until they're a good bit older. Though mine do use a few words.
I still remember my now 6 yr olds word selection at 2.
mama, dada, whee, whoa, woo-hoo, and ow!.  Those were all the words he needed to go along with all the big motor skills he was focused on.. like riding a scooter.
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Thanks for the encouraging words ladies - I greatly appreciate them all!!!
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DS1 would sit for books starting right around a year, for DS2 it was right around 2 years old when he really discovered Brown Bear, Brown Bear, lol! Then that was the only book we read for AGES. DS1 has always been a quieter kid and has always like puzzles and more sit down activities though.
DS2 (27 months) will now sit for 1 book at a time (which is all I expect!), but he'd much rather be digging and running and building. I read to the boys while they eat lunch most days and we read together as a family before bed. We make a big deal about reading before bed- it's been a learned skill for our two-year-old, but it does help him to calm down a bit before he's actually in bed and I think it helps that daddy holds him and helps him to sit while I read.
It also helps DS2 if he's holding a book while I'm reading. On certain books (like his favorite Brown Bear) We actually have 2 copies for this purpose- his is a board book, mine is the regular hardback. It's easier for him to sit if he has something to do with his hands. Maybe something like that or a squishy toy or something for your son would help him sit? We didn't start to do this with DS2 until he was closer to 2 though, so it may not be quite right for your 13mo.
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My daughter has just gotten past this stage. She wouldn't sit still to be read to, or she would pull the book from me and open and close it, or just want to turn the pages. She's 16 months old now, 17 months tomorrow in fact, and is just now starting to "get it", how it works, listening to a story and all.
FWIW, I am in the process of having my son evaluated for autism spectrum disorder. His speech was delayed, and we worried about that for a long time, but there are lots of boys with delayed speech that are just fine. There are other symptoms you can watch for though, things I didn't know about when my son (now just turned 5) was a toddler. For example, he should be trying to bring you into his world? Does he bring you toys and show them to you? Point his finger at things? Interested in social games like peek-a-boo? Copy things that he sees you doing? Like for example, my daughter will pick up my deodorant and rub it under her arms. So, just some food for thought if you end up needing further evaluation, you can be watching for some of these other things too.
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I found the best time to read to little ones is when they are strapped in the highchair. Start giving them a book or two after meals (usually the same ones). And pretty soon they are grabbing those books and climbing on your lap with them.
All children are different though. My third boy didn't take to them as readily as the others to start, but he likes them now at age three. Give it time.
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MY DD is nearly 13 months. She has just started to sit through a book. She has 2 favourites, the others she is only intersted in turning the pages as quickly as possible so no chance to read 
What I do that I think may have helped her interest in books is keep a couple of books in the same place where she can access them. I keep the same 2 board books on small table near where she goes to sleep. A couple of weeks ago she started showing excitement when she saw them and sometimes she brought one to me wanting me to read it before going to sleep and sometimes when waking up in the mornings. I read to her with her on my lap. I think she likes the fact she recognises the same book in the same place each day.
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Ladies, I cannot thank you all enough for all your thoughts and suggestions.
I think DS has made huge strides since I first posted this on Monday - I know, right?!?!?
I decided that maybe putting a few books in a basket on the end-table would help, along with a few in his room that he can go to any time, and some in his sister's room where her books are might spark an interest for him.
It is truly amazing how DS has just taken to getting a book and taking it to either myself or DD to *read*. He definitely doesn't have the attention span .... but that is okay with me - I know that somes with time!
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