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My ds is 4 1/2. When he and other boys at the park play, they naturally want to play a bit rough. For isntance, playing chase...one must touch the other to catch him. But then when it gets too rough, my instinct is to say, "keep your hands to yourself" But that is a contradiction if I allow them to play chase. What policy do you find best for play?
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When mine start to get a little rough, I tell them "play gently." This goes along with telling them "gentle" since they were toddlers, though they no longer need the demonstration of what that means. I've found this more effective than telling them what *not* to do - it gives them a positive alternative. At the playground, if it's pretty much evenly matched, I'll let it go a little farther than I would in the living room. I have girls, though, so probably an entirely different world....
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Well for the chase game , I would re-explain the game to them, and call it TAG. At their age range, I explain to them the rules of the game, and how one tags another. By catching up to and touching the one they are chasing with their fingertips only, they just tagged the one being chased, and therefore caught them. I would just stress about using fingertips, because when the whole hand is used, or with thumbs, pushing and/or grabbing happens in light of the excitement on both parts.
In general for play, I just remind them to play nicely, being gentle and careful of others, so no one gets hurt by accident. I have boys and girls, and personally don't allow wrestling and the like so, that kind of keeps the whole physical thing pretty at bay. My 5 year olds do play touch football with their older sister and/or with eachother, and the TAGGING rules apply there too.
I hope that helps in some way. 
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And once you've established the rules.. you can just stop them and ask THEM "what is the rule?" It makes them stop and shift gears back to thinking instead of getting carried away.
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I appreciate your responses! Your answers are straingtforward and clear. Sometimes it takes someone else to point out the simplest things! thx
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