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In Charlotte Mason's method, there's supposed to be consequences given for not listening attentively to what's being read. What would some suitable consequences be? I have issues with some of my children who just don't listen well; we finished reading a Cleopatra story today and my 8 year old couldn't even tell me that she had killed herself. He was surprised. But that's just one part. He wouldn't be able to retell anything really. I'm not sure how to make the situation better. Any ideas? Thanks!
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Start small and build on it.. They need to learn to pay attention for small increments before you start lengthening it.
You also need to look at your child's strengths.. if they don't learn well through listening.. you may need to take it even slower and help them find things that help.
For myself I often find if I have something to keep my hands busy I can listen better.. doodling on a page or something.
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JodieLyn wrote:
For myself I often find if I have something to keep my hands busy I can listen better.. doodling on a page or something. |
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This is a really good point, Jodie. My oldest cannot sit still, she is a fidgeter. While we are reading aloud together, it is nearly irritating for me as she moves about ... and even occasionally grabs another book to cast her eyes on while I'm reading to her. Though it may appear that she's not listening, I have found just what you have described, that she actually listens better. So now, I often have us all sit at the kitchen table (as opposed to the sofa), so that she can color or draw as I read. I'm often impressed with her oral narrations on what I just read, when it appears that she hasn't heard a word.
And certainly, just as Jodie suggested, we start out small. I can always tell when my girls have had enough and I've gone just a bit too long with our time. So now, I stop short - which often has them begging for more  .
... and I know that we aren't always going to be able to present material that lights a fire with our children, but perhaps he just doesn't find Cleopatra interesting. Maybe ask him what he'd like to read instead? Reading something together that he is interested in will help both his listening skills and his reading skills, and will likely have him wanting to read and learn more.
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I watch the clock for things I want narrated. I don't try to finish a story in one sitting. I do 10 minutes, but you could start smaller. Like Chris said, its better to leave them wanting more.
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This is just what I needed with my oldest. Thank you Jodie and Chris! I get frustrated with oldest dd's fidgeting when doing studies, and I think she is just like you two have described. So often our mindsets have been molded by the ideas of society, school, etc., you know, children must sit sit and listen with perfect attention, and if they don't it must be corrected. I love the ideas gained here, we help each other so much. I find it is a frequent process to try to change some of the ideas that school and society tell us on how schooling should be. We CAN give our children coloring or a small activity to do WHILE listening if they learn better that way. I'm going to try this with dd.  I love with homeschooling the option to try different methods with our dd children who have different learning styles, to help them, and to help ourselves in overcoming our frustration with it. 
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JodieLyn wrote:
| For myself I often find if I have something to keep my hands busy I can listen better.. doodling on a page or something. |
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That is so true for my oldest, who is 9. Today he was brushing a doll's hair while he was listening to Swiss Family Robinson. When his hands are busy, his mind is more focused.
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